Decision Making Support

Decision Making Support

It can be a real torment when we are unsure about something, part of us might know the answer, but the other part of us might feel unsure or doubt if you can really trust yourself. Therefore you remain in the stuck limbo, wondering and pondering, maybe even repeating the same patterns and or self-sabotaging.

Feeling a bit lost, actually gives you space to take stock and re-grow into new energy, focus or direction. It is also a time to develop a connection to yourself and listen and explore what it is you do want. The not knowing can cause frustrations and irritations in itself, but it is totally possible to crawl out of the stuckness, into a clearer more fuller you.

Receive holistic coaching and emotional support around the topic, my calming decision support is mostly in 3 ways.

1 Checking in with yourself through relaxation and trusting inner wisdom.

2 Be listened to and find relief from sharing the challenges you are facing and gaining new insights,

3 Receive universal guidance from your highest self and spirit guides, is this aligned right now.

Each session is up to 90 minutes depending how long it is needed to break free and become clear. A follow-up session supports keeping you accountable for any changes that are made and a kind way to check in how you are.

If it is more of a Chronic challenge you are facing indecision about and it feels more deep-seated then, Mbit Coaching is recommended. You may need up to 6 sessions depending on each individual.

This involves breathwork, guided visualisation and connecting into our 3 brains, head, heart & gut. Neurosciences have now found that we have 3 brains, each one offers an intelligence to connect in and offer wisdom from within. You are sent on a beautiful guided trance journey where you listen and receive. For some of us even listening to our hearts is a massive shift, so we go as gentle or as depthful as needed to match you and your situation.

I have always been very indecisive, partly because I just want everything to go well and to make sure it is really right. I have gone through career changes, location changes, relationship changes and each time I have learnt something more about myself or what is important. The best medicine for decision making has been to take time to check in with myself, receive guidance and make time for relaxation. Letting joy and love in is the best nourishment for going into your choices with more assurance and comfort. As a guide that is my role to support you to unfold with all of this.

I always want to make sure it’s a good match to work together, therefore to start, please book a free call here where we can connect and consider together the best plan for you.

Love

Emily

Reconnecting with your heart

Reconnecting with your heart

Heart reconnection and why it is important.

Its a difficult time in general at the moment, with seemingly so much to despair about, wars, ongoing issues of inequality, financial difficulties, the climate etc and if you are like me, then you can have days when you just feel a lot. So what do we do from this place of feeling so full of the gloom perspective? How do we pick ourselves back up and continue on living our everyday life? My suggestion and comfort has been learning and allowing joy back in, like a door way of light opening until that outshines the despair.

I share some simple tips for you to feel more soothed and even a bit more joyful by connecting to your heart.

1 Breathing

Oh I know its an obvious one and our bodies are so amazing at just doing things automatically, but I have been amazed at how even 3 minutes of conscious breathing can soothe. It is proven that abdominal breathing is supportive for our mind and body by calming our nervous system. I like to either box breathe, so 5.5 inhale, hold, exhale, hold or equal breaths of 4-8 seconds in and out from my abdomen. There are a wealth of apps on this and I am currently reading breath by James Nestor in case you wanted to delve deeper in to the knowledge.

Caring for you sea air refreshes body mind and soul

2 Connecting with a friend

Some of you know I have relocated back to Dorset and have had to re-find friendships and social communities. It is simple but oh so important to connect with our loved ones, getting out of the place you may have been ruminating and just sharing in a simple way how we are and listening and enjoying connecting. 

3 Movement 

We all know it endorphins get released from movement, so go find something you enjoy, hula hooping, skating, walking, canoeing, Pilates, running, ask yourself what would I like to try?

4 Nature

Autumn is a lush time to be out walking in the colourful leaves and breathing in that fresh air. I always feel clearer from going out, sometimes new insights arise or just help shift perspective.

Autumn tree getting out in nature for support

5 Limit news time

It is good to discern what information you are feeding yourself, of course staying up to date is important if you want to, however limit the time and perhaps chose the time you do this. For example is just before bed the best time? Are you checking it as an act of avoidance? It most likely may trigger things by reading the news, so just go into it knowing that, (at least for me I mostly dont find comfort in it).

6 Creativity

I have been enjoying doing the artists way a 12 week guide all about finding creativity and play with your inner child. Some of you may have done this, for me it has been so essential to give myself permission to play and enjoy the every day in simple ways. For example, allowing myself sweet treats, colouring in, dancing and being in nature. Whatever your enjoyments are, go do them. 

All of this will support you to feel lighter.

7 Nourishment

Guided visualisations, meditation, spas, healing treatments and yummy supports that help you shift perspective, soothe your nervous system and re-frame your thinking. The hardest part is often allowing ourselves the gift of nourishment, you are worthy. I have always been met with reward when I reach out for support for my own wellbeing.

8 Mbit coaching

Connecting you to your body and emotions

Reconnect in with your heart, by giving it space to share its wants and values. Our heart is a complex network, a bit like our head brain, it can communicate and sense and feel in its own hearty way. Unlike the head brain the hearts desires are really about compassion, love and relationships. Mbit is a beautiful way to connect in with our head, heart and gut brains to hear their wisdom and solutions. When we are more aligned within, it supports us in all areas to feel at our best and clearer in how we want to be in our lives. If you would like to find out more about a treatment, please click here.

So there you have it, 8 simple supports to reconnect back in with your heart and bring some joy and nourishment.

Sending you and your hearts love and warmth.

Emily

Talking About Depression

Sunflower image lifting out of depression

Talking About Depression

Talking about depression and depression awareness is so important. I wanted to share my experience of depression, what has helped and how to support yourself and others going through it.

It feels a bit yucky to talk about, a bit like admitting to something shows our vulnerability, however it brings comfort and and connectedness to know as humans we all feel and share the same emotions. Whether it is just arising naturally without a cause, or after a big high, of adrenaline, then a crash, or from a trauma or something sad happening, depression can and does arise.

How are you? People will ask as I feel the tears rising up and “I’m okay”, seems to be enough to bat people away, or for another question about something else to be asked. 

Inside I know I’m not really okay, my head is fuzzy and I’m feeling out of sorts.

Being naturally caring, it is often easier to simply focus on others, regardless of how horrible I feel and it’s easier to listen and support others instead of sitting in the darkness and dread.

What is this darkness anyway? It’s a quiet space of stillness, torment and oddness. I don’t feel myself and yet I just about function. I might forget things in the shop after paying for them. I might take longer to make decisions and I might seem more short tempered, irritable or quiet with my closest humans. 

It’s as simple as sharing what is going on so people understand, rather than pushing them away and so they understand it isn’t necessarily to do with them. It can be really simple, such as “I’m actually not feeling so great, I’m feeling flat and it has nothing to do with you, but if I’m a bit distant or not myself just know that”, or “I’m taking solutions and I know it will pass”. 

Depression for me can look like, low feelings, re-playing a difficult time, feeling trapped, stuckness, crying, feeling anger, unmotivated, lethargic and/or confused, these are just some of my experiences with depression. It may look different for you and it’s important to realise the signs for you, so asking yourself how am I actually feeling? Is this manageable? How am I functioning in my every day? Getting real with what your needs are and being brave to reach out for support is a real commitment to yourself.

Helping others with depression

When I know others are suffering, it has been a help to reach out to them, so they are given space, kindness and love to open up in whatever way they want to share. I have also found this a help, even if I didn’t talk about anything, it was an opportunity to feel some lightness and relief from the paralysing state and wanting to hide, as if its contained within you. For me there is such a slowness with depression that it takes more than just a “hi you okay” to be able to share about it, so knowing there are pockets of opportunity to share with someone close to you in a slower more gentle way, is such a support. Everyone opens up differently and don’t take it personally if they dont open up with you. There are also other ways to be together without speaking, playing a game, or doing something they enjoy, all of this will soften and soothe. 

 

Support available

Reaching out to a loved one (animal/tree/human/unseen being) in a simple conversation of what is going on for you, is a beautiful first step. There is also a wealth of professional support available depending on what resonates with you. I am sharing my own experience of solutions, so it may not include what will or has helped you.

Homeopathy – I have a homeopath who allows me space to share openly and sends me remedies specific for my disposition, this really supports me emotionally and mentally.

Holistic Treatments – I receive treatments, such as Bowen and Reiki that work on lifting emotions, releasing trauma and shifting energy within our mind and body. Of course both offer space for deep calmness, nourishment and relaxation.

Holistic Coaching – re-connecting you to yourself and re-bridging that connection to the divine or spiritual support that you may have lost touch with. This has been a massive game changer for me, realising no one is out to get me or work against me, in terms of the universal love that is available to you and is here to support you. When I was in complete victim mode, it really helped hearing this and being taken on a guided visualisation to feel the earth, my angels and spirit guides (that everyone has). I am done holding back this woo woo chat in fear of putting others off. It is how I love to support and it is how I work. I am lead by you with how deep to go into this, sometimes a simple guided visualisation is enough.

Self care – at home supports can include meditation, breath work and movement which really helps to allow things to shift and disburse. There are plenty of online offerings and apps that freely offer this.  

Shaking it up – changing up your routine, your environment can be a healthy jolt to the system to shift perspective, this may mean going away for a break, breaking the normal patterns so our mind has other things to focus on. Sometimes we need a gentle push to snap ourselves out of it, a talking to from a being that cares and wants to support you. A reality check that you are not your depression, or how lowly you may think about yourself at the time.

Trust in the process of the unwinding out of this state, it may be gradual and no efforting or forcing is needed.

Unwilling to take support

We may know what supports us, but feel unwilling to take it, but sometimes we just need a reminder that there are easeful solutions available when you want help. The sooner you reach out, the more likely it will shift. Even if we had all the help in the world and we were unwilling to take it, we need to be the ones to want to say yes, I am ready to receive help. 

Unsure what support is best

If you are not sure what support is right for you, then you can ask someone that’s been there what has helped them. Muscle testing is also a great way at finding out what solutions are right for your body and mind in that moment. There are plenty of Kinesiologists which support in this offering. You can also try a solution and see how it supports you.

I offer a 20 min chat, totally free, where I can listen openly in a caring way and help guide with offerings that could support your situation. I offer Mbit coaching and reiki in Dorset and remotely, which can really serve in feeling more ourselves, supporting in decision-making, soothing overwhelm and encouraging relaxation. With my offerings and in my experience the best therapy has been finding nourishment for both mind and body.

 

To Conclude

I wrote this when I felt really low and wanted to share about it after passing through it. The more we openly share our experiences, the easier it is to realise our shared experiences of suffering and to find solutions together. So, with that said and to normalise, everyone feels low, depressed at times, its okay to feel this and there are so many solutions of support available.

Please be in touch if this resonates, or to receive further support.

Sending love Emily

Talking About Depression

 

Don’t let being alone stop you from doing what you want

Last year I went to Portugal by myself, a friend recently said how inspiring it was and she has now been traveling on her own too. I had no idea that it’s inspiring when as a woman you are not afraid to do things on your own. Maybe this is the same for men, I don’t know?

Truth is I have often been a lone cat, growing up rurally, I amused myself out in nature (singing to cows) When I was in my late teens, early 20s, my two main friends had boyfriends and I didn’t want to settle for not doing what I wanted just because I didn’t have friends available, so I didn’t! I went to Ecuador when I was 21, went to Greece twice when I was 22, then 23, been to spas, Portugal twice alone, been out for dinners, day trips and weekends away exploring. To be honest I stopped thinking of this as something different as it feels so normal for me.

Many sensitive and/or introverted beings often are content in their own company, you might also be and don’t identify with those labels. Maybe you are terrified to do things on your own, maybe you would like to try?

I realised maybe it’s good to talk about my experience of being content in my own company, rather than seeing this as something wrong or not cool. In an ideal world I probably would have a mix of both company and my own space but at some point there will be a void of a aloneness that I urge you to embrace.

Being on your own doesn’t always feel comfortable, for example I sometimes feel more afraid, more vulnerable, but the best bit is you also get to do exactly what you want. I also feel strong and independent in many ways, as well as love support from others and spending time with others. For me being in nature alone is the best, as I can really drink in the nourishment, I also find myself connecting with all the nature beings from the ants, to the trees and the birds, as they are also living and we are sharing this home together. This is opposed to hearing someone else talk to me, yes I’m a listener. I recently went on a boat trip and the guide said better to be on your own than in bad company, which I thought was funny and some truth to that.

Plus side

  • Get to do your own thing
  • Get to know yourself and how it feels being reliant on yourself, out of your comfort zones
  • It’s empowering
  • You get to connect with new, more people than you might if you were in a closed circle.

 

Down side

  • Feel things more, such as vulnerability
  • Can have annoying men attention, but less than you think, I think men are equally if not more afraid of their own company too.

The point of this is we are powerful, you are powerful, you don’t need to hide behind your phone, you can allow yourself to feel things, to be seen and don’t feel you can’t do something just because you have no one to go with.

Perhaps you are desperate to get 30 mins peace and quiet to yourself. Make it happen! You will for sure appreciate the company after this time.

Of course always tell someone where you are going, take care, be aware and be organised. If anyone ever wants tips or support, please write to me and I would be happy to share. Maybe you have some good advice/experience that you would like to share? Maybe there’s a way to build a network or tap into an existing pool of solo travellers. Let me know your thoughts here,

Love Emily

How to Make Better Decisions

How to Make Better Decisions 

Are you struggling to make a decision and get clear on something? Perhaps you have made a few rushed decisions before, that you realise didn’t sit right. You might find yourself at the point of wrestling with yourself and forcing an outcome to appear? 

It is sometimes wiser to commit to not making a decision at all (which is also a decision), take stock, unravel and be gentle on yourself. Relaxation offers the best support and trust in knowing you will arrive at a clear decision when the time is right, rather than forcing or rushing.

We are mostly in the mindset of having things we want quickly, taking medication to numb the pain, 24 hour shopping, fast deliveries, the amazing internet at offering the answer we want to anything in just a few moments, but what about making decisions? For sure we can ask the internet or ask friends what they would do, but ultimately the decision comes from us. There is also a responsibility in honouring that it is our choice, embodying that fully and taking ownership however the decision may unfold. 

I share 6 decision making tips to help you relax and make better decisions that sit right with you.

1. Getting out in the fresh air

Fresh air supporting your mind to feel clear

When we are sat around getting caught up in thinking, actually the freshness and change of scenery and getting in a different head space (literally) is a real support. Whether it’s the vastness of nature, seeing the bigger power than us, the sea, or a change of scene in a city, a fresh perspective is nourishing. A mountain top perspective is ideal, you don’t need to literally climb up somewhere higher, although you could, you can also imagine this in your mind and looking down from a birds eye view at a mini you and the decision choices.

2. Focus on relaxing in your body and mind

Women relaxing in the bath

Do whatever relaxes you, such as that refreshing post exercise feeling, your body being filled with fresh oxygen and energy. A relaxing yoga class, meditation, a healing treatment, or dancing. Whatever it is, do and enjoy that fully and be as present as you can with that. I have often read sometimes the best decisions come when you are in the bath. There is a gift in giving yourself a break and simply relaxing in the here and now, which can sometimes bring new insights rather than actively trying to think about it.

3. Be with friends

Taking support from friends in decision making

This may seem like a distraction list, but actually it’s getting you to re-connect with yourself in a round about way, so you are fuller on enjoyment, relaxation and kindness to yourself. Socialising with friends can bring us a smile, no matter how up tight we may seem in making this decision, it will happen easier if we can just lighten and relax a little. It may be we get to talk about it with our friends, the ones we trust and opening up and sharing can be soothing in itself. Your friend or friends need not say anything, simply listen to you, you can also take note of anything they do share and also know this is for you to reach a decision that sits right.

4. Write it all down

Writing down a list of pros and cons

Allow yourself to go there, with a pen and paper, all the things we hope, feel, hate, whatever it is, start by offloading it from your brain. This can look like writing a list of pros and cons about both decisions, which can allow you to see it all from both perspectives. It can be you re-visit this list, adding new insights, as it might be you have more to add, or actually what seemed like a block yesterday, is actually not a problem today. I would suggest setting a time limit on yourself for doing this, which can help bring focus in a shorter amount of time.

5. Focus on your loves

Reminding yourself of your qualities, your strengths, what you enjoy doing, can help shift you into a more abundant feeling. When we make decisions from scarcity and lack, it is harder to see the fuller picture and we want to focus on feeling more nourished in our self, to make the best decision we can. It may also be appropriate to remember any goals or ambitions you have and consider how this decision may support in bringing into your life what you really want.

6.Visualise both sides of the decision playing out

For those that have a more visual display, i.e. images/colours work more for you than words, you can visualise both sides of the decision playing out in your mind as if a yes looks like this, a no looks like that and notice how you feel in your head, heart and gut area as you do that. It might be a lighter or heavier feeling in your body, change of pace, temperature, sense or a change in how you experience both decisions, try as best you can to be aware of changes to your body and emotions as you do this. This is a simple exercise to test out and to not get too caught up in the thinking here, but it may bring knowledge to feeling more drawn or connected to one aspect of the decision.

If you are struggling with any of these exercises or in the decision then of course seeing a trained professional has its place too.

Mbit Coaching is a beautiful way to ask our three brains, head, heart and gut for their wisdom. Neuroscience now shows that neuro pathways are found in our heart and gut area, which demonstrates our natural intelligence we have to use there. Our heads offer creativity, our hearts compassion and our gut courage. Ideally we want all three brains aligned and listened to when making a decision that sits right, literally that sits right in our body and brains. You may find that your head wants one thing, but your heart or gut wants another and can often be why there is a struggle or wrestle in decision making. This is a beautiful relaxing process where we realise we have so much knowledge already within us to support ourselves.

Reiki also offers beautiful insights and asks for guided support from unseen beings, using oracle cards and light energy, which helps in removing blocks to chakras and can reveal a fresher energy and increased insights into what could support you.

Ultimately decisions can often work themselves out and knowing we can always change our mind or simply lean for the next decision. So, the key is relaxation, self-care, doing what you love and enjoy and using mind visualising or writing to support you in becoming clear.

Reach out if you need any support with this.

Love Emily x

 

Self Care for Grief

Self Care for Grief

Grief can express in many ways, from a bereavement of a loved one, a pet, or the loss of something, for example the realisation of not having children, or the ending of a relationship, or a change. I share all the ways to receive soothing support, as self-care, or from restorative treatments too.

Grief is processing a loss of something or someone and is really our great ability to love and appreciate a person, place or thing. At times it can be incredibly overwhelming, you can hear the phrase, struck with grief, being consumed and unable to do simple tasks. A mourning period is essential to process emotions, reflecting, cherishing and remembering what about that person or thing you loved and appreciated.

Everyone processes grief in their own way and time, for some it might feel easier to push feelings to one side to begin with, or have denial of a loss. It can even be even years later that you fully experience grief. It is in some ways a gradual unfolding of learning to process our thoughts and emotions overall.

There also can be other emotions stirring such as a clear seeing at the shortness of life and to not sweat the small stuff, this can jolt us into all sorts of behaviours. There may also be regret and or anger at something that did or didn’t happen.

Its important to know all of these strong emotions and thoughts are natural. They are also allowed to be in their very essence of energies in the body and with time and support there may even be learnings from dealing with this and from the loss of the connection.

Just as we process it uniquely, so to we can find ways to support us uniquely.

I share some self-care tips at home for grief.

 

These are suggestions only and at any point if you are really struggling then below there is practitioner supports further below too.

* Arnica – a Homeopathic first aid remedy in the strength of 30 c. Taken from the arnica flower, pictured below. It is specifically good for grief, shock and trauma. Bringing you back into your heart and soothing from emotional and physical stress.

arnica flower

 

* Star of Bethlehem Bach Flower Remedy – this is a flower remedy to support your body, emotions and mind in dealing with grief, stress and loss of a change.

Bach flower remedy for grief

* Writing down everything you feel onto some paper – giving yourself permission to unload whatever feels strong or that you want to write about onto paper. It doesn’t need to make sense, no one else needs to read this, it is a process of removing yourself a little from what is coming up for you.

The benefits of journaling

* Reflect on the love and appreciation – of the person, place or thing you are grieving for, you can also write this down as a cathartic process too. Holding your hands to your heart and really connecting in with that feeling, colour or sense of energy in your heart.

Reflecting on the love and appreciation of a person you have lost

* Focusing on what you feel will support you in this moment – a cup of tea and a piece of cake, a soothing bath, a walk with a friend, slowly you will heal. One day at a time – ask yourself what kind act can you do to support yourself today.

* Utilising your support network – whatever that looks like, a pet, family, friends, partner, neighbour, trusting in the people around you to offer you love and support.

Two people walking together and hugging

* Goodbye ceremony – Depending on your practices/rituals, I enjoy connecting with spirit guides and angels and asking for their guidance in the transition from the physical to the energetic realm, as I feel they have more awareness of this realm. You don’t need to take it that far, if this isn’t for you, it could be as simple as lighting a candle and holding an image of the loss in your heart, or bringing it to a meditation or taking a few breaths after reflecting. Do something that feels right for you and a familiar way to connect with the person or thing you have lost.

* Visualisations – imagine saying to the person or people involved anything you wanted to say that perhaps you didn’t have time for. You can imagine them listening to you and then it all floating away, like a basket on a river, or a washing away with water or a colour if that helps. This supports beginning to find closure and some distance from yourself and the person or thing you are wishing to let go of.

As always, home care tips serve as a great purpose until you see more support is needed, then below is support from practitioners.

 

Treatments

 

It may be a practitioner of some sort can help you make amends, perhaps there were things unresolved you now wish to process, or can help you move forward out of grief and putting into place now any learnings.

  • Bereavement counsellors – wonderful support if you want to speak to a trained professional in processing your loss.
  • Bowen for grief – whether we logically understand it or not our body is a connected unit and our thoughts and emotions can also be stored in our muscle memory and affect our physical body. Grief can affect the lungs, so a cough may be present, or feeling tightness around the chest area and other parts of the body. Such as stiffness, sore lower back and exhaustion from emotional stress. Bowen is a gentle realignment treatment which releases tension or stuckness from fascia, which is a web that surrounds all our muscles, tissues and cells. Bowen provides deep relaxation, releasing of traumas and tissue tension. Usually after a session you feel soothed, sleep better and have less pain. Read more about Bowen here.
  • Reiki for connecting in to your body and with a loved one – a beautiful gentle treatment to feel supported by angels, spirits and guides that are unseen beings supporting you, bringing you love, light and healing energy to your body, emotions and energetic field. Pouring this beneficial energy into each chakra point, releasing negativity and any blocked energy that you no longer need. Bringing you closer to any supports that could aid your healing situation, including sometimes messages from a loved one, or a deeper connection with them and, or a deeper settling into the process of change. Read more about Reiki here.
  • Mbit coaching – this is a powerful way to connect in with your body and three brains, (head, heart and gut) We become connected to any unresolved feelings, see patterns and discover inner guidance and support that might aid processing the change. Especially helpful if forgiveness is needed, or supporting a decision making process, or finding compassion for your self or the thing you have lost. Read more about Mbit Coaching here.

As always reach out here for support should you need anything.

With love

Emily

 

Living with fear

Living with fear

What fear actually is, how it affects our little bodies and hearts and all my tips to support you little treasures in living with fear.

We’re swimming in it at the moment, it’s coming out of the news like hot cakes, on the headlines, in the paper, in the guidelines. Of course I understand some of the guidelines are to support us, but the media really have an lot to answer for, this ability to whip us up into a frenzy can be so harmful.

We also have every right to read up and listen to as much of the ever changing news as we like, so how do we live with all this fear around us?

Solutions have to come from within, finding your own way to process the triggers felt, mixed messaging and pressure coming from a place of fear. 

Fear, otherwise known as False, Evidence, Appearing Real, this is a good analogy if you are like me and scared of the dark, as soon as the lights go off, I can imagine a monster is going to come and gruesomely devour me! I also can’t watch those sorts of movies, you know the ones that leave you terrified before going to bed, they hang around and haunt me for ages. This fear analogy could also be used for some of the hype and media BS that we are being fed, false evidence appearing real?! Ooooo Emily, put your claws away!

Another saying I hear, is feel the fear and do it anyway, well in the current situation, I feel its more, feel the fear and simply batten down the hatches. However there is some truth in this saying, there are ways to push through fear if there is something you really want to do, you can tap into that courage and hunger, I share more about solutions for this below in the therapy section.

If your like me and agitated and triggered easily by the next scary monster around the corner, you might find my tips below useful on dealing with hype and fear that we are currently facing. 

Fear tips below

Focusing on my loves/passions/what I like to do

I always harp on about this but if you are sat there re-watching or obsessing over the news, you will be fed with more worry. I am not staying don’t keep yourself up to date, but focusing your time being poured into your loves, perhaps its creative writing, longboarding, dancing, gardening, baking, reading, whatever tickles your heart, go do it! It’s an act of kindness and nourishing self care. 

Exercise, that you enjoy

I love weight training and I am lucky to have an awesome PT, who really makes me giggle, so I get a double hit giggles, endorphins released and yeah my biceps are getting  bigger 😉 nothing wrong with small biceps either 🙂 

Fresh air

Walking, getting in that fresh air, Vitamin D from the sun and connecting with your buddies and nature in the physical is so important. It provides that time out, to gain a fresher perspective, literally, you are breathing in a different environment and gives an opportunity to gain the bigger perspective on things. Whenever I see the sea, not only does it calm me, but it makes me realise my problems/fears seems a bit small when facing a vast energy that’s always changing, the sea! 

Having a morning routine that isn’t harmful

being a human is full on enough, mornings can be full on enough for us non morning people, so starting with your stretches, cup of tea, music, just be super gentle on yourself, you don’t need to launch straight into the drama, but then again perhaps you need that to get you going?! Not my cup of tea, though, literally.

Knowing where my support is

Following, staying close to speakers, social media accounts, that I feel resonate, comfort and support me. It might be someone, something that makes you laugh, or speaks up when you feel you can’t, or simply makes you feel relaxed. I am lucky enough to have the presence of a guru in my life, which isn’t for everyone, for some its their football community or going to church, or listening to a podcast, whatever it is, make sure it supports you.

Preparing before I read the news

Reading the news to keep up to date, but preparing before I look, it’s 99% going to be something in the headlines, that I don’t agree with or will push my irritation buttons, so I ask myself, is now the best time to read this, do I want to do this to myself? If you feel strong and ready, then go right ahead. But its a good one to take a step back before going in, think of it like going into the fire pit and its a good time to check in with yourself.

Fear, what does it do to us?

What does it do to our bodies? It stimulates the hormone cortisol to be released from our adrenal glands, which sit above the kidneys, providing our nervous system with the stimulated fight or flight response. Are we preparing to fight and speak up, or are we retreating or freezing? Of course some fear is perfectly natural and beneficial, as we are wild creatures adapting to change, but too much and its going to agitate our nervous system and deplete our immune system.

What does fear do to our emotions? Fear elicits a response from our gut brain, (we have 3 brains our head, heart and gut) which often negates the heart brain, so yes, our hearts our closing off and we might not be as compassionate and our rational mind is gone off for a vacation.

If your struggling after trying self care tips at home, then check out the below therapy solutions

Reiki – the most relaxing, gentle treatment there is, opening up the heart chakra, soothing your nervous system and providing insight and clarity tailored just for you precious beings. Most people share they feel more refreshed, clearer and connected after a treatment. Check out zen Ted below, getting his chakras aligned.

Reiki practitioner Bristol

Mbit coaching – connecting in with your three brains (head, heart and gut) and most importantly listening to your heart, opening it up and engaging again with your heart felt values. A guided coaching session to help you feel more connected to your self.

Fear is felt in the front of the gut and courage is felt in the back of the gut, which can help push through the fear, once the nervous system is balanced and we are clear on what we want to achieve and what our blocks are.

Listen to your gut

Bowen – another lush treatment to soothe your nervous system, small rolling moves made over specific points on fascia, (a web network surrounding our muscles, joints, ligaments and nerves), to unravel, unwind and soothe, mind, body and emotions. Trauma and tissue tension is released, providing deep relaxation. 

Bowen technique back care

Arnica – a beautiful homeopathic remedy from the arnica flower, below, that is gentle and incredibly potent at bringing you back into your heart, soothing from stress, shock, trauma, injury and also blood clots. It’s a heart remedy for the physical and emotional. 

arnica flower

Hopefully that provided some useful tools and techniques in dealing with fear. Be in touch here if I can support further.

How to connect mind and body

How to connect mind and body

I’m chuffed as chipmunks that I am now an mBit coach!  What does that mean? I hear you ask, well it basically means I have another string to my bow, to support beings to be connected to their bodies, specifically to support people to connect mind and body together, yeay! 

Neuroscience shows that we have 3 brains, your head, heart & gut. Each one of these has its own function & purpose.

The head brain analyses, is logical & can produce creative solutions when balanced.

Listen to your head brain

The heart brain feels, values, shares our true wishes & offers compassionate support when balanced.

Listen to your heart

The gut brain identifies with our core self, our true identity, has an impulse for action & offers courage as the greatest support when balanced.  

Listen to your gut

Sometimes our brains have a conflict with one another, so you know deep down what resonates with you, but you just don’t take action & you freeze without any movement at all.

Or

You know your hearts wish, but you stick to what’s logical for you, but your always wondering what’s best for you?

Mbit coaching is for those that:-

  • You experience internal conflict within yourself between your thoughts, feelings & actions.
  • You’ve not acted upon your dreams, goals & plans
  • You do unwanted behaviours of habits & you don’t know why or have difficulty stopping
  • You find it difficult to make decisions
  • Something within you is making it difficult for you to motivate yourself to take action
  • You sabotage yourself from achieving your goals

Mbit coaching is useful for:-

  • Goal/outcome setting
  • Decision making
  • Problem solving
  • Harnessing your intuition
  • Cultivating understanding & perspective
  • Relationships
  • Health & wellbeing

Mbit coaching provides a framework for you to connect in with your brains, truly listen & access alignment.

This allows for:-

  • More relaxation,
  • Greater clarity,
  • You move forward with a clearer knowing of yourself & what it is you really want.
  • You feel more connected to your true self & balanced,
  • It is excellent for decisions &
  • supporting when you feel blocked or stuck.

Its neuroscience meets ancient wisdom & the best part is that you develop this by tapping into your bodies/brains own potential.

Hooray for that!

Drop me a message if you would like to find out more about mbraining coaching.

Bowen Technique Bridport – Is Bowen therapy good for anxiety?

Is Bowen therapy good for anxiety?

I share how I can support you with anxiety, using Bowen therapy and many more solutions

Firstly, I was taught that anxiety is simply a label we have given to an energy in the body, we usually believe its a negative thought or feeling that we shouldn’t have and that we need to get rid of it to be better. In actual fact, everyone at some point has anxiety and its totally ‘normal’, so you can be gentle on yourself and know its okay to feel anxiety. Its more what it stops you doing that can make you feel limited, so lets look at solutions.

Of course there are many different practices for the mind, CBT, meditation, prayer, taking supplements etc the list goes on and its about finding something that resonates with you. I choose to practice short moments of strong mind, as it really soothes and supports me and I love the idea that no matter what I think or feel, it leaves no trace, like a line drawn in water, or a firework in the sky. For more info on this practice, you can click here.

So, to start with, you know you can be gentle on yourself and think okay its an energy in the body that will resolve and how can I best relax and take care here?

Bowen therapy and anxiety

Reflection

It might be a good starting point to ask yourself what is going on at the moment that might contributing to anxiety, is it work? When you are around certain people? Something you feel uncomfortable or low confidence about? All of these are totally ‘normal’ to have anxiety over and if there is no cause, don’t worry about reflection isnt leading to any useful insights.

On some level, we are simply cute beings that want to be our best at all times. 

Foods to nourish

Avoiding strong stimulants such as caffeine, alcohol and sugar could support, as these can exacerbate anxiety. Of course a little is fine if you don’t want to stop this, but I once had a client say ‘I don’t drink much tea’ and when I asked him what that meant for him, he said 7 cups! So its relative to you.

Exercise you enjoy

Exercise will get those endorphins flowing and usually brings relief from sitting with the feeling of anxiety. Perhaps try and join a class with a friend for extra support.

Remembering the bigger picture

Focusing on what things you do enjoy and what is it you love to do can soothe. Focusing on all the positives in your life can simply be enough to shift the focus from the anxiety misery. Of course these suggestions are all things to chip away at to support you, you can write these down or you might find it easier to catch yourself on the downward spiral.

Belly breathing can soothe 

Often we are breathing more shallow from the chest, when it comes to feeling anxious, especially with panic attacks. If our breathing isnt supportive, then this may lead to digestive problems, poor posture and stress, this may also lead to poor sleep and lack of concentration. So test out breathing in and letting your belly expand, as you breathe out let your belly fall in. You could try a cycle of breathing in for 3 and out for 3, or even increase this to 6 seconds. You could do this winding down before bed, or when you feel a strong overwhelm of anxiety.

Figure of 8 visualisation 

Visualisations can soothe, imagining the figure of 8, which is one of my favs to share, in that you imagine yourself and the ‘thing that is bothering you’, you draw a figure of 8 around yourself and the other person, place or thing, relaxing the whole time as much as possible, then you imagine a direct slice happening between yourself and the other person/place of thing and them flowing away in water. The idea here is that you remove yourself away from the stressor. You an be really gentle here and just test it out.

Bowen technique for anxiety

When you come to see me for a treatment, I will listen and understand and we look at solutions together on what could support you in your lifestyle, looking at all aspects of you. We have a beautiful move in Bowen called the respiratory move, which is very opening and soothing to the abdomen and rib cage, supporting the fascial front line. This picture below shows the front line, taken from Anatomy Trains book by Tom Myers 2007. This is showing our connectedness in the body and if one area is impacted, then most like the other areas running through this line might be. In terms of anxiety, you can see the chest, ribcage, abdomen and pelvis are all linked here, so releasing here will allow more relaxation, more opening of the ribcage and more ability to breath easier.

Fascia front line bowen therapy bristol and anxiety

Benefits of relaxing with bowen

Common tension areas I see in practice, are the jaw and temple area of the face, which I work over too. It also feels nice to give yourself an hour to relax on the couch, be listened to, understood and have sore points squidged, aligned and relaxed. The respiratory move also supports asthma suffers too.

The aim is to relax you and in doing so there are multiple benefits, one is that Bowen can re-set the ANS – autonomic nervous system – put simply the nervous system, which controls our fight or flight response, if we are in too much fight, from stressors, an agitated nervous system, too much caffeine stimulation, then more adrenaline is released in the body, you will have higher stress and anxiety. This impacts our digestion and sleep. When you are  relaxed and soothed, your body has a chance to kick back for a bit and operates in the PNS parasympathetic nervous system, which is our resting and sleeping state supporting with digestion, elimination, sexual response and immune system functioning.

To conclude

Whilst anxiety is a natural energy to feel, if its preventing you from doing something or getting you down, then its time to reach out, I have listed many options of solutions but coming for a Bowen treatment will be sure to relax, reset you and balance the body

If you would like to be squidged, aligned and soothed from stress and anxiety, then contact me here.

Healing treatment space

Therapist Review Bristol 

 

 

Reiki Bridport – Distance Reiki

What is distance reiki?

I share what distance reiki is, how it can help you and why it is actually so reassuring in these non-contact times to know that healing, relaxation and calmness are still here to support you.

If you are feeling a bit poopy and are in need of some support, read on –

I have a sense that if you are a squidgy, thinking human being in the pandemic, then you are feeling a lot, perhaps anxiety, fears about death/loved ones dying, feeling frustrated and restricted with all the lockdowns. Well firstly you are not alone, as there are many humans feeling the same way as you. If a physical, emotional or mental symptom is bothering you, preventing you from doing something, then its perfect to reach out for support.

It could be you have muscular pain but don’t want to go for any hands on treatment at this time (most alternative therapists are urgent appointments only in lockdown as of February 2021) you could have digestive complaints, insomnia, are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious and basically a bit p**** off at life.

Fear not my darlings as that’s where I come in, to listen openly and offer any guidance I can give you to completely relax as you are, with whatever it is that is bothering you. Lets see what solutions we can find preventing you enjoying your life.

This is me below, in my treatment room.

Distant reikiHow does it work?

I will ‘tune in’ to your energy field using a reiki symbol, I use oracle cards, crystals and ask for support and guidance from beings at a higher source or vibration, what?! These other unseen beings are usually named spirits, angels and guides. Surely no matter what you think of this intellectually, a load of beings worked together to support you, sending you light and loving energy at this time, has got to be a good thing. A lot of our support structures or go to supports might have fallen away during the pandemic due to the restrictions, so if you feel open to trying this out, then it can only lead to benefit. Reiki can help us cope by encouraging relaxation and bringing balance to both mind and emotions.

Reiki healing oracle cards caring for you

What can I expect from a session?

We will have a chat online, via Skype or a preferred platform, then after the oracle card reading, you will kick back and relax somewhere warm, comfy and safe at home. You can select relaxing music if you prefer. I will be sending you reiki healing from my eco treatment room and placing crystals over your chakra points virtually. I have received both hands on and distant reiki myself and it is so relaxing and calming. I enjoy feeling each one of my chakra points come into a balance. Sometimes there is swirling and whirling of colours and thoughts, but it all settles into a nourishing refreshed feeling, like a good nap.

Some people do receive insights and information which may support to offer solutions. The whole session is around 1 hour and a bit and then I gently wake you and share any insights to support you. Benefits include stress relief, improvement to immunity, reduction in blood pressure, a sense of calm, clearing any blockages energetically and physically, a sense of purpose, clarity on a situation or in making a decision, this can come in the appearance of colours, images or words.

An image of our 7 energy centres, otherwise known as chakra points, which become balanced during a reiki healing session.

Long distance healing over chakra points

After the session guidance

To be super gentle on yourself for the rest of the day (always but in particular on this day) drink plenty of water, to support hydrating you from your energy repair session. Note any insights that come to mind as ways to support you improve your situation.

So, in a nutshell, if your struggling and remote healing ticks your boxes for practical reasons then do reach out. I would so happy to hear from you, feel free to ask a question if you are not sure if its suitable. As, I said relaxation and care is deeply needed at this time and yes we have had to be a bit creative here, but distance reiki isn’t a new creation for the pandemic, but a very valuable tool which can support you to be in a balance, mentally, emotionally and physically. If you feel like you would like a spring clean then its worth trying.

Book a distance healing session here.

“I don’t understand how it works, but just seeing Emily and her treatment was very relaxing. The cards she uses are always so profound and touching. As for the reiki healing, I just love to relax and be sent warming energy, even my cat seems to enjoy it as she will come and sit with me and we relax together.” Jade

“Emily supported me through a difficult time in my relationship, I found her guiding reassurance clarifying and soothing” Beatrice

Reiki healing review