Soul Plan: What It Is and How a Reading Can Help You

Soul Plan: What It Is and How a Reading Can Help You

Soft fossil shaped blue and gold, exploring your soul plan reading

 

Soul Plan Reading Process

 

A soul plan reading is a journey into the deeper layers of who you are, your gifts, your challenges, and the purpose that sits beneath your life experiences.

This process is designed to be intuitive, grounded, and deeply supportive, providing clarity and insights you can implement in your daily life.

The reading can focus on specific areas, such as

  • Your relationships
  • Your career direction
  • Your emotional patterns
  • Your natural gifts
  • Your purpose and potential

As well as incorporating all aspects of you, such as

  • The emotional tone of your energies
  • The life themes that feel most active right now
  • The lessons your soul is emphasising
  • The opportunities that are opening for you

 

Creating Your Soul Plan Chart

 

In soul plan work, your birth name carries a unique vibrational signature that reveals the energetic blueprint of your life. Every reading begins with your full birth name, exactly as it appears on your birth certificate. If you have changed your name then please also let me know as this offers another tool of exploration. 

The soul plan chart maps out:

  • Your talents — the gifts you naturally carry
  • Your challenges — the lessons your soul chose to master
  • Your goals — the qualities you’re here to embody
  • Your soul destiny — the deeper purpose that sits beneath everything

 

Exploring Your Life Themes

 

Together, we explore:

  • The core lessons your soul is working through
  • The patterns that repeat in your life
  • The strengths you’re meant to lean into
  • Where your energy flows easily
  • Where resistance shows up
  • How your talents, challenges, and goals interact with each other.

This isn’t fortune‑telling. It’s a two way exploration process of you absorbing and connecting to the information that has unfolded from your soul plan. 

Some things may resonate deeply, others may feel hidden as in something yet to be explored or realised. Bringing them into the light can help us in our awareness, self growth and focus. 

 

Practical Guidance You Can Use Immediately

 

A soul plan reading is only powerful if it helps you in real life.

So I translate your chart into practical, grounded guidance, such as:

  • Tools for making aligned decisions
  • How to navigate challenges with more ease
  • How to use your gifts with confidence
  • How to move toward your purpose without forcing anything
  • A clearer sense of what to prioritise

Although the reading is spiritual in nature, the insights are grounded. You can walk away with

 

🌿 What Clients Experience During a Soul Plan Reading

 

A soul plan reading is often described as both grounding and eye‑opening. While every person’s journey is unique, there are several experiences that tend to show up again and again.

 

Emotional Release and Relief

 

It’s common for people to feel:

  • Relief that their struggles have meaning
  • Validation that their challenges aren’t “failures”
  • A softening around old self‑judgements

Understanding the why behind your experiences can be profoundly healing.

 

Clarity About Life Themes and Purpose

 

Clients often leave with a clearer sense of:

  • What they’re naturally good at
  • What drains them
  • What they’re here to learn
  • What direction feels aligned

This clarity doesn’t force you into a path—it simply illuminates the one that already is.

This is where clients often experience clarity, validation, and those “aha” moments.

 

A Shift in Perspective

 

A soul plan reading often reframes life experiences in a way that feels empowering.

People frequently say things like:

  • “Now it makes sense.”
  • “I understand why that pattern keeps showing up.”
  • “I can finally see the bigger picture.”

This shift can create space for new choices and new ways of being.

 

Space for Questions and Integration

  • As we grow into recognising who we are and always have been, we recognise all parts of ourselves, which can be included into the whole of your very being. This can include your karmic cycle and what you are here to implement change and grow in within this life cycle. 

Whilst this is all deep stuff, the practical knowledge helps to make it digestible into your every day. At the end of the reading, we take time to explore your questions, insights, and any emotions that arise. Understanding how to work with your soul plan.

 

Optional Follow‑Up Support

Some people like to continue the journey with:

  • Integration sessions
  • Purpose coaching
  • Healing work

These are completely optional but can help you embody your soul plan more deeply.

 

The 3 part Soul Plan Offering

 

It can also be overwhelming and a lot of information, especially if your a HSP (highly sensitive) like me, that is why I have broken my offering into 3 parts

Introduction

The reading and soul healing journey

Integration 

Part 1 Introduction 30 minute zoom or telephone intro call to understand where you are at current and what topics you would like to explore, a chance to connect and prepare for your soul plan reading. 

Part 2 – Soul Plan reading 60 – 90 minutes, depending on each person and what arises. This may include focusing on key areas, as well as covering on key themes and patterns. It can sometimes feel a lot to digest in one go, so we prioritise according to your needs and what seems most helpful. This also includes a beautiful soul healing journey.

Part 3 IntegrationAnother layer of therapeutic support to help you integrate and feel held in your next steps. It could also be the reading is split into two parts to allow more assimilation time. Or there is a chance to explore further insights/questions/actions after digesting your reading.

£185 for all 3 parts (payment plans accepted).

Please reach out to book a complimentary call or go ahead and book in your first session here.

Softening Into the Uncomfortable: Listening for Inner Guidance

Softening Into the Uncomfortable: Listening for Inner Guidance

Quiet reflective moment in nature, representing listening to inner guidance.

There are moments in life when we find ourselves in a space of uncertainty, discomfort, or emotional intensity. When we are inside those moments, perspective can feel far away.

We may ask ourselves: When will this change? How do I move through this?

Sometimes, the most supportive thing we can do is soften into the experience rather than fight it.

Often, the way forward doesn’t come through pushing harder or trying to force clarity.

 

Seeing Beyond What Is Happening Now

When you feel you’re in the middle of a storm, our minds often try to solve or escape the discomfort as quickly as possible.

Small pockets of rest, or play can create space for something else to emerge — a deeper sense of knowing that was already present beneath the surface.

These moments allow us to listen differently.

 

Listening to the Wisdom Within

Many of us don’t think of ourselves as wise. We may look outward for answers, reassurance, or guidance.

Yet there is often a quiet inner awareness already present.

You might think of this as intuition, inner knowing, or simply the body’s way of sensing what feels right.

One of the first books I remember ordering as a child was How to Meet Your Guardian Angel. I was a curious child — perhaps a little unusual in the things that fascinated me. There was a quiet sense of knowing in me, even though I didn’t fully understand it at the time.

Children often carry a natural openness to the unseen, to imagination, and to intuition. They trust feelings and inner nudges in ways adults sometimes forget how to.

As we grow older, we can start to doubt those parts of ourselves. We look outward for certainty or assume that wisdom belongs to someone else.

But the truth is that each of us carries our own form of wisdom. The question is rarely whether it exists — but rather how we learn to listen to it again.

 

The Idea of Support Beyond Ourselves

Across many spiritual traditions, there is a belief that we are supported in ways we cannot always see.

Some people relate to this as spirit guides, angels, gods or goddesses. For others, it may feel more like the presence of past loved ones, animals, or ancestral support.

You might even think of it playfully as your personal “upgrading team” — supportive energies helping you evolve and grow.

Whether we view these ideas symbolically or spiritually, the deeper invitation is the same: to remember that we are not entirely alone in our experiences.

 

An Energetic Holding Space

When life feels confusing or overwhelming, it can be easy to see ourselves as stuck or lost.

But another way of looking at these periods is that they are spaces of energetic holding.

A time when something is shifting internally, even if the path forward isn’t visible yet.

Instead of rushing to escape the discomfort, we can experiment with gentle curiosity:

  • What is this moment asking me to notice?

  • What might emerge if I allow a little more space here?

  • Can I soften, even slightly, into what is present? Even 1% of it?

The answers may unfold slowly, through small insights rather than dramatic revelations and in fact it dosent need to bring any answer, the softening itself is your nourishing support.

 

Why Rest and Play Matter

When we are overwhelmed, we often believe we must work harder to figure everything out.

Yet the nervous system — and the intuitive mind — often respond best when there is space for rest and lightness.

Moments of play, creativity, or quiet reflection allow the mind and body to settle. This could look different to each one of us, some of my favourites include dancing, sitting in nature, connecting to spirit guides and meditation. Meditation really invites me to slow down, even if its a simple breathing from the stomach, breathing in a soothing colour to each part of you, your body, forehead, heart, back and so forth. Then all around you as if you are receiving a hug.

Other gentle ways to soften into the uncomfortable include:

  • Listening to soothing music,

  • Mindful pauses between tasks, this could be a nano second, or a few minutes

  • Being out in nature and listening to the birds, allowing your senses to bathe in what you can smell, see and feel

  • Connecting with supportive people or animals,

  • Doodling, or colouring in

These practices aren’t about fixing anything — they’re about creating space to hear the quieter voice within you.

And in that settling, something deeper can begin to speak.

 

Closing Reflection

You may not always be able to see the full path ahead.

But within you there is a capacity to sense the next step.

Whether you experience that as intuition, inner wisdom, or spiritual guidance, the practice begins the same way:

By softening.
By listening.
By allowing the quieter voice within you to be heard.

If this way of listening to yourself resonates, you may also find it supportive to explore these themes in a guided space.

In my work as a holistic counsellor, I offer sessions that gently combine conversation, emotional awareness, and intuitive listening. Together we create a space where what is present — emotionally, physically, and energetically — can unfold at a pace that feels safe and supportive. This also includes personal techniques that resonate for you, so you can practice listening and connecting ongoingly.

If you’re curious about this approach, you can read more on spirit animal connection here, and listening to your heart wisdom here, both offer soothing support.

You can also reach out here if you would like to book a 1:1 session, and find our more on what’s involved in my sessions here, what to expect from Holistic Counselling.

Highly Sensitive, Empathic, or Intuitive? Emotional Support for a Sensitive Nervous System

Highly Sensitive, Empathic, or Intuitive? Emotional Support for a Sensitive Nervous System

Have you ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” take things to heart, or feel things more deeply than others?

Perhaps crowded places overwhelm you, other people’s moods affect you, or you need more time alone to recharge. You might notice subtle shifts in tone, energy, or atmosphere that others don’t seem to pick up on.

You may be highly sensitive, empathic, intuitive — or a blend of all three. Rather than being a flaw, these traits often reflect a sensitive nervous system, one that is deeply attuned to the world around it. With the right sensitive nervous system support, this way of being can become something you work with, rather than against.


What does it mean to have a sensitive nervous system?

A sensitive nervous system processes emotional, sensory, and relational information more deeply. This can show up as:

  • Strong emotional responses

  • Feeling overwhelmed by noise, light, or busy environments

  • Deep empathy for others

  • A rich inner world

  • Noticing small details others miss

  • Needing rest after social interaction

This depth of processing can be a strength — creativity, insight, compassion, intuition — but without support, it can also lead to anxiety, burnout, or emotional overwhelm. Many people who seek emotional support for sensitive people describe feeling overstimulated by everyday life.

It’s not that you’re “too much.” Often, your system has simply been living in environments that are too much for it.


Highly sensitive, empathic, or intuitive — what’s the difference?

These words are often used interchangeably, but they point to slightly different experiences:

Highly sensitive people tend to have a nervous system that is more reactive to sensory and emotional input. Many people searching for how to cope as a highly sensitive person resonate here.

Empathic people often feel others’ emotions strongly, sometimes absorbing moods without realising it. This is where empath support and learning boundaries can be especially helpful.

Intuitive people may have a strong inner knowing or gut sense about situations and people, picking up on subtle cues beneath the surface.

Many people resonate with all three. The key isn’t labelling — it’s learning how to care for your system so these traits become supportive rather than overwhelming.


When sensitivity feels like a burden

Without understanding and support for an overwhelmed nervous system, sensitivity can lead to:

  • Chronic anxiety or overthinking

  • Emotional shutdown or numbness

  • People-pleasing and difficulty saying no

  • Feeling responsible for others’ feelings

  • Fatigue from constant emotional processing

Often, sensitive individuals learned early to adapt to others rather than honour their own needs. Counselling for emotionally sensitive adults can offer a space where your pace, your experience, and your emotional world are finally centred.


How holistic counselling can help

A holistic approach recognises that sensitivity isn’t “just in your head.” Your emotional experience is connected to your body and nervous system.

In holistic counselling, we might explore:

  • Understanding your nervous system responses

  • Soothing nervous system regulation tools

  • Strengthening emotional & energetic boundaries

  • Building self-trust and self-compassion

  • Opening to sensitivity as a strength

  • Creating a lifestyle that supports your system

Rather than pushing you to “toughen up,” the focus is on helping your system feel safer. As safety increases, resilience naturally grows.


Sensitivity as a strength

Highly sensitive and empathic people have so many wonderful traits:

  • Deeply compassionate

  • Insightful and perceptive

  • Creative and reflective

  • Strong listeners and healers

  • Emotionally intelligent

The goal isn’t to feel less — it’s to feel supported while feeling deeply.


If you recognise yourself in these words, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Having a sensitive nervous system can feel overwhelming at times, but with the right support, it can also become something you understand, honour, and gently work with rather than against.

Holistic Counselling offers a calm, supportive space to explore your experience at your own pace — with care, curiosity, and compassion for how deeply you feel. When your very being feels safer, everything else can begin to soften too.

Reach out here if I can support you further.

What to Expect from Counselling: A Holistic Approach (In Person or Online)

What to Expect from Counselling: A Holistic Approach (In Person or Online)

Starting counselling can bring up a mix of feelings — curiosity, hope, uncertainty, and sometimes nervousness. If you’re wondering what to expect from counselling, holistic counselling offers a gentle, whole-person approach that supports emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. Whether you’re considering in-person sessions or online counselling sessions, this overview is here to help you understand how holistic counselling works and whether it feels like the right support for you.

 

What Is Holistic Counselling?

Holistic counselling views emotional wellbeing through the understanding that we are multi-layered beings. Our thoughts, emotions, body, nervous system, life experiences, and spiritual connection are all interconnected.

Rather than focusing solely on symptoms or “what’s wrong,” holistic counselling creates space to explore what is alive for you as a whole person. This includes emotional patterns, embodied responses, past experiences, intuitive insight, and the quieter inner knowing that often gets lost when we’re overwhelmed or in survival mode.

This approach honours that healing is not about fixing yourself — but about remembering, reconnecting, and gently unwinding what has become stuck or burdened over time.

 

What Happens in a Session?

Each session offers a confidential, supportive space where you are deeply listened to — without judgement, expectation, or pressure.

You’re welcome to bring:

  • Whatever feels present for you

  • Uncertainty, confusion, or not knowing where to start

  • Emotion, reflection, or silence

There is no requirement to explain yourself clearly or arrive with an agenda. Sessions unfold at your pace and are guided by what feels most important or alive for you in that moment.

Sometimes the work is conversational and reflective. Other times, it’s quieter — allowing space for feelings, insights, or sensations to emerge naturally.

 

A Unique Holistic & Spiritual Approach

My way of working is gentle, intuitive, and integrative. Alongside emotional exploration, I attune to the body, nervous system, and subtle energetic shifts that often accompany emotional states.

Where it feels supportive — and always with your consent — sessions may include:

  • Grounding or nervous-system regulation

  • Awareness of bodily sensations or emotional holding

  • Gentle visualisation or spiritual reconnection

  • Energy-based practices to support emotional release

This work recognises that emotions don’t just live in the mind — they are held in the body and energy field too. By working holistically, we allow emotions to move, soften, and integrate, rather than staying stuck or overwhelming.

Spiritual elements may be included in a way that feels right for you — whether that’s reconnecting with inner guidance, a sense of universal support, or simply feeling more rooted and resourced within yourself. Nothing is imposed; you are always in control of the depth and direction.

 

Online Counselling: What Is It Like?

Online counselling offers the same depth, confidentiality, and support as in-person sessions, with the added comfort of being in your own space.

Many people find online sessions:

  • More accessible and flexible

  • Less intimidating initially

  • Surprisingly deep and effective

You don’t need any special equipment — just a private space and a stable internet connection. Being at home can often help the body relax more quickly, allowing the work to unfold gently.

 

How Many Sessions Will I Need?

There’s no fixed number of sessions, and you’re always free to choose what feels right for you.

Some people come for a single session or short-term support around a specific issue. Others feel drawn to ongoing sessions to explore deeper patterns or support a period of transition.

That said, many people find that working over a small container — such as six sessions — offers a supportive rhythm. It allows enough time for trust to build, themes to unfold, and gentle shifts to integrate, without feeling overwhelming or open-ended.

You’re welcome to work:

  • Pay-as-you-go, session by session

  • Or in blocks of six, if you’d like a sense of continuity and commitment

We can review this at any point, and there is no pressure to continue beyond what feels nourishing and supportive for you.

 

Feeling Nervous Is Completely Normal

It’s very natural to feel unsure before your first session. You’re welcome to take your time, ask questions, and arrive exactly as you are.

You don’t need to have clarity, answers, or a plan. Often, it’s the counselling space itself that gently brings things into focus.

If something in you is quietly curious or drawn to this work, that’s often enough to begin.

You don’t need to have everything figured out before reaching out. If you’d like support, or simply want to explore what’s possible, you’re welcome to book a free 20-minute chat via Fresha, or send me an email or call. We can take things slowly and see what feels right for you.

Too Sensitive?

Too Sensitive?

How I Learned to Shut the Noise Out

The media headlines on the TV and in newspapers, social media, friendship circles, and imposter syndrome—no wonder our brains are exhausted. I hadn’t realised how drained I was until I left city life in Bristol and landed in the countryside in Dorset. I’d felt a calling to head to the countryside for years, but fear of what I would leave behind and uncertainty about my true desires held me back. Listening to your inner calling can be challenging when there is so much noise around us. How can you truly listen to yourself and trust in what is right?

I share tips and insights on how I was able to shut the noise out, rebuild trust, and strengthen my inner knowing.

 

The Struggle to Fit In

From a young age, we adhere to fit in with those around us as an act of survival. It is beautiful to be part of a tribe or community, but how can we also learn to listen and trust in ourselves?

As a sensitive child, I often preferred the company of cows or puppies. I found it easier to be with a trio of friends than in a larger group. I identify with children who stand on the sidelines and consider before joining in. Reflecting on how we formed connections in childhood can be a start at understanding our inner connection.

 

Sensory Overload

I often feel sensory overload in busy social environments and know I need quiet time to decompress post-socialising. This isn’t just an introverted thing but the wish to just go off on my own was a call to notice how it feels to be alone and settle into a relationship with yourself. We often plunge into relationships, looking to others for confirmation, love, and guidance, instead of getting to know ourselves first.

 

The Move to the Countryside

Dorset sunset beach

Choosing to leave city life for the countryside helped soothe my nervous system. Of course, you don’t need to move to reconnect, but I’d felt called to do so for years and chose to ignore it. There was a mistrust of my inner voice and fear of losing the choices and friendships available in the city. Consuming and digesting all the grim headlines and social media can leave us feeling full and I hadn’t realised how starved I was of my own thoughts.

Perhaps you have a calling to do something, we all have unique callings, but we can all benefit from harnessing and listening to our internal intelligence. Whether through yoga, meditation, walking your dog, dancing, cooking, or gardening, being and meeting yourself as you are is one of the kindest things you can do. It can feel vulnerable, but it’s part of seeing ourselves as we are, including the parts we don’t like.

 

Ways to Reconnect and Listen

Nature If green spaces nourish you, trust in that calling. As I settled into Dorset life, I discovered new interests like gardening—a humble way to connect with the earth. Nature meditations helped me connect with the land, appreciating the earth, sky, sun, and sounds around me.

Gratitude Focusing on the good already in my life helped me feel nourished rather than what I was lacking when stuck in the loop of measuring myself to others.

Faith It’s okay not to follow what everyone else is doing. Connecting to your rhythms and trusting them is crucial. Exploring spirituality—angels, spirit guides, meditations, and even God—helped me feel less alone.

I began simple prayers of gratitude, which then led to feeling guided on my path and hearing my sense of purpose, which strengthened my reconnection.

Meditating with water

Inner Work Shadow work allowed me to see my irritations, jealousy, and comparisonitis clearly, owning them rather than projecting them onto others or letting them block my self-perception.

Therapeutics One of my favorite ways to connect with myself is through Mbit or Mbraining, tapping into our three intelligences—head, heart, and gut. This practice strengthens your internal connection and helps confirm aligned choices.

 

Reducing Social Media

I found myself less on social media and feeling happier and freer. When I occasionally dip into media land, I notice how easily I get sucked into the missing cat story and losing focus. Setting timers and checking in pre- and post-reading can help manage getting lost. Avoiding triggering accounts reduces turmoil and helps maintain quiet.

 

Physical Connection

Connecting with my local community and engaging in 1-2-1 interactions or small groups has been beneficial. It’s not about cutting people off but finding our own ways to connect that feel aligned. We are herd creatures, yes, but learning to listen and trust is vital for our nourishment.

To strengthen your body listening skills, I suggest a simple mind, body connection each day, as well as using the suggestions above that resonate to you. Whether through meditation, exercise, or guided therapy, finding what works for you is key.

If you would like to book a 1-2-1 session with Emily to explore strengthening your relationship with yourself, you can find the links below.

 

Support

Would you like to strengthen and harmonise the relationship with yourself, in a gentle and nurturing way. Feel clearer and calmer in being your authentic self. Receive treatments using Reiki and holistic coaching to soothe overwhelm, anxiety, and indecision. 

  • Holistic Counselling Online: These sessions help you manage stress, anxiety, and indecision, providing a calming and clarifying experience.
  • Hands-on Treatments in Dorset: I offer treatments for pain relief, hormone balancing, and relaxation from daily stresses. Reach out for support here.

Gentle cuddles

Personal Practice

My passion for harmonising my own relationship with myself and reconnecting when I feel lost translates into my natural style of supporting others. I prioritise my health through movement, meditation, and holistic support. Being highly sensitive and emotional, receiving such loving support has been essential for my well-being. With over 20 years of passion and interest in complementary therapies, self-discovery, and meditation, I bring a wealth of experience to my practice.

Best water filter UK

Best water filter UK

It shouldn’t be hard to have clean water, but with the latest water scares in Devon and in other areas in the UK, perhaps you are wondering about the water you are drinking and what is the best water filter in the UK? You might not even have the brain power to even think about this, either way, I thought I would share some points from my research in case it helps. Whilst there are lots of opinions and other stories, I have tried to stay as simple and to the point as I can.

1. Download your water report first to see what is in your water. I am with Wessex Water and it was really quick to type in my postcode and get a local water test report.

2. Understand what is in your water, staying rationalised as possible can really help so you don’t freak yourself out, for example, what it shows may be super minimal, it may also be naturally occurring. For example naturally occurring fluoride in small amounts is relatively okay, artificial fluoride being adding to things is going to potentially cause more harm. I used this site to check the meaning of each item.

When I contacted Wessex Water directly, they said they add Chlorine and sometimes Orthophosphate to help with lead prevention, if that is in your area.

3. Solutions
You could fall down into a hole of why do we even need to do this with our water and why aren’t our leaders and water companies doing more to sort this from their end. Whilst I stayed in that energy for a bit, I decided I can, we and you can simply take action yourself as a way to take care of what feels best for you.

Your basic replace monthly water filter – I personally feel this isnt enough of a filter, but it is a good starting point, it reduces

  1. limescale and certain metals such as lead and copper.
  2. The activated carbon reduces substances that affect smell and taste such as chlorine. 

Maxtra pro all in 1 

  • Filters trace impurities such as certain herbicides, pesticides and pharmaceuticals
  • Reduces taste-impairing substances such as chlorine.
  • Protects your appliances against limescale in regions with soft to hard water.
  • Reduces chlorine, lead and copper.

I personally feel there are more cost effective solutions that also reduce the waste of a filter each month and filter to a higher strength, therefore more impurities are removed. 

 

Pozzani – Scumb and scale – if you are in a hard water and would like a filter too, this one helps with both. Under £100 I believe is a good price with the cartridges needing replacing every 6 months. I have been unable to get a report from them of what exactly it removes and the percentages, however, they list this:-

reduces the presence of chlorine, dissolved organics, heavy metals and a wide range of other pollutants, such as estrogens, dirt and more.

Good option for cost and effectiveness, I would personally prefer to get a percentage breakdown of what it removes for peace of mind.

 

Berkey water filters UK/EU – They are the most expensive starting at £365, however there is a thorough list of what it removes, 

99.9% of harmful chemicals from your drinking water and address over 200+ contaminants in your drinking water. They removes chlorine, viruses, harmful pathogenic bacteria, cysts, heavy metals, parasites, hazardous chemical contaminants and all other impurities while leaving undisturbed the essential minerals like magnesium & calcium your body need.

 

Water2.coma popular one if you are on Instagram, easy to fit, good price, around £120, with replacing of cartridges every six months. It removes a good amount of things, link to the table it removes here, it dosent yet remove fluoride but they are working on it. It doesnt remove hormones or pharmaceuticals if this is a concern to you.

 

Reverse Osmosisby UK Water Filters the most impressive list and percentages of the cleanest water that isn’t caked in plastic. Comes it at around £287 with replacing cartridges every six months. Plus sides – it filters to a high level and It also adds in a re-mineralisation to the water, which is often the main argument with the RO system that it removes the good stuff too.

The downside more expensive each month, they suggest with generous use it could be 40p per month more per person for your water usage. Can be up to 70% of water wasted, but it isn’t always 70% and may be less, this is part of the process of removing the impurities. it also means you can choose what you do with that waste water, for example in the garden etc. 

I personally feel this isnt actually that expensive considering what it removes and compared to the others and would be my personal choice.

 

4. Trust no one, question everything, knowledge is power, except at some point you need to settle with what feels aligned for you, which may be different to me or your friends. There is a line to be drawn with when we are sucked into the fears of what ifs, and to draw back into our daily lives and get on with simply living and enjoying our life. If you would like support with body listening and making aligned choices, what feels right for you, then you can drop me a message here

Of course this is a small list of research I have done, you may have found another one not listed or experienced different thoughts on what I shared. If you would like to add to the list to share knowledge then please drop me a message.

What does it mean to connect to yourself?

What does it mean to connect to yourself?

A lot of my clients have very focused careers, Doctor, Midwife, Lawyer, Teacher. One of them said to me, I dont get it, what do you mean connect to yourself?

Connecting to yourself is establishing an awareness of yourself and your needs. For example, like tuning into different aspects to understand how you’re feeling mentally and physically. This connection can be experienced in many ways, such as meditation, healing, movement and engaging in personal rituals that help you feel aligned with a higher energy or purpose.

Imagine it as a way to check in, for example, can you check right now how are your shoulders feeling? Do they feel sore, relaxed? How are you holding them? You are using your power of thought to focus fully on your shoulders. This awareness helps in understanding what’s happening within you, which can be crucial for healing or addressing any pain or discomfort you might be experiencing.

Connect in to your shoulders

In all my sessions I aim to encourage this awareness to ourselves and deep work can come about in a 1:2:1 setting, in particular when using Mbit technique.

I also have curated a 12-week healing journey to explore, receive, and deepen the connection to your body, heart, mind, and highest self for those that prefer a small group self study programme. 

In a small group setting I provide guidance and supporting throughout the journey, offering you a new tool each week. These tools have helped me during times when feeling lost, disconnected or indecisive, bringing about a sense of calmness, relaxation and connection. Having experienced their transformative effects, I am inspired to create and hold spaces for others to learn and benefit from them as well.

This programme is for those who are feeling stagnant, grappling with decisions, desiring ongoing relaxation tools and looking for a deeper connection to themselves.

By the end of this journey, you will more attuned to yourself and your highest self.

What You Will Gain:

– Experience relaxing visualisations and meditations
– A one-on-one Reiki healing session
– A one-on-one Mbit session (connecting with your head, heart, and gut)
– Archetype reading and insights into your main roles
– Safe exploration of hidden/shadow aspects, fostering a sense of wholeness and balance
– Self-discovery
– Tools for ongoing empowerment
– Connection to your angels and exploration of spirit guides
– Understanding your elemental type and how to achieve balance
– Insights and guidance regarding your current blocks or decisions
– Clarity and a stronger connection to yourself, achieving emotional and mental balance
– Formation of new empowering habits

Practical Details:

Live sessions will be held bi-monthly, lasting approximately 60-90 minutes In the weeks between sessions, you will receive individual support from me, including intuitive readings, one-on-one Mbit sessions, Reiki healing, and guided visualisations. Additionally, there will be a small group where you can share your journey and its unfolding with fellow participants. Each group will consist of 3-4 people.

To get started, please fill out this short form.

I am super excited to embark on this healing journey with all of you.

Love,

Emily
Caring For You Treatments

Discover your spirit animal

Discover your spirit animal

Spirit animals and animal guides are energetic beings that appear as an offering of support, enabling us to receive wisdom about a particular situation or event. I share why discovering your spirit animal is so supportive and all about ways to connect with them.

I have always had a strong connection with animals, from growing up on a farm in the countryside and seeing animals as friends, especially as I lived in the middle of nowhere, it was such a joy to spend time with them.

I have always been aware of animals in situations and simply love their role modelling. For example, I am a huge cat lover and I just so appreciate their ability to relax with such ease. I also love their boundary settings and they love a good cuddle. This has really touched me at appreciating their qualities and in particular I have learnt about boundary settings in my personal life and have thought of cats as a support.

Cat and human relaxing

You may already have an affinity to certain animals, they may just appear in your thoughts or in your heart as animals you love. What is you like about them? What can you learn from the way they move through their day? Can you adapt any of their qualities?

There are teachings all around us all the time in our everyday, noticing animals and their needs, listening to the sounds from nature, all of this can increase your sensitivity and openness to receiving wisdom. Specific meditations, relaxation techniques and healing treatments can allow us to connect in to relaxation and receive insights and support.

When I have received Reiki I have often seen animals and after researching their meaning been amazed at the correlations and learnings. I equally have seen animals when giving Reiki and it has been of profound support for the individuals receiving the treatment too.

The main benefit received is gaining a deeper understanding of ourselves and our unique place in the world. For example a Giraffe appeared when I was leaving a job and place of living and I felt unclear about it all, after reading up, the Giraffe was a reminder for me to take the wider perspective of things to help with the next stage, quite literally with their beautiful long necks. I also read up that in the morning they make gentle gestures and sounds and I loved that they are gentle creatures and quiet in the morning. I guess it had made me feel more at ease by being me and in the situation gave me comforting insights

Giraffe animal card

In our bustling lives, we often forget our connection to nature, embracing our spirit animal reconnects us with the natural world, creating a deeper respect and appreciation for the environment. Their presence serves as a reminder to embrace our strengths, acknowledge our weaknesses, and navigate life with a balanced perspective.

Reiki alone can support gifting so much healing and support, which is why I have combined an offering to receive in all ways.

  1. Holistic Coaching – a session listening and supporting you in any blocks you have in your life,
  2. Reiki remote or hands on healing session, (relaxing and aligning chakras and insights) and
  3. Revealing your spirit animal, guides or beings that are wanting to offer you support at this time. We reflect on their qualities together and how best you can learn form them going forward.

If this sounds like something you would like to try, then please be in touch here.

It’s essential to approach this journey with an open heart and mind. Sometimes, our spirit animal might change, offering new lessons and insights as we evolve. The key lies in being receptive to these changes and allowing ourselves to grow through this connection.

Connecting with your spirit animal is a personal and empowering experience. It encourages us to embrace our authenticity, celebrate our uniqueness, and harmonise with the world around us.

Love Emily

Decision Making Support

Decision Making Support

It can be a real torment when we are unsure about something, part of us might know the answer, but the other part of us might feel unsure or doubt if you can really trust yourself. Therefore you remain in the stuck limbo, wondering and pondering, maybe even repeating the same patterns and or self-sabotaging.

Feeling a bit lost, actually gives you space to take stock and re-grow into new energy, focus or direction. It is also a time to develop a connection to yourself and listen and explore what it is you do want. The not knowing can cause frustrations and irritations in itself, but it is totally possible to crawl out of the stuckness, into a clearer more fuller you.

Receive holistic coaching and emotional support around the topic, my calming decision support is mostly in 3 ways.

1 Checking in with yourself through relaxation and trusting inner wisdom.

2 Be listened to and find relief from sharing the challenges you are facing and gaining new insights,

3 Receive universal guidance from your highest self and spirit guides, is this aligned right now.

Each session is up to 90 minutes depending how long it is needed to break free and become clear. A follow-up session supports keeping you accountable for any changes that are made and a kind way to check in how you are.

If it is more of a Chronic challenge you are facing indecision about and it feels more deep-seated then, Mbit Coaching is recommended. You may need up to 6 sessions depending on each individual.

This involves breathwork, guided visualisation and connecting into our 3 brains, head, heart & gut. Neurosciences have now found that we have 3 brains, each one offers an intelligence to connect in and offer wisdom from within. You are sent on a beautiful guided trance journey where you listen and receive. For some of us even listening to our hearts is a massive shift, so we go as gentle or as depthful as needed to match you and your situation.

I have always been very indecisive, partly because I just want everything to go well and to make sure it is really right. I have gone through career changes, location changes, relationship changes and each time I have learnt something more about myself or what is important. The best medicine for decision making has been to take time to check in with myself, receive guidance and make time for relaxation. Letting joy and love in is the best nourishment for going into your choices with more assurance and comfort. As a guide that is my role to support you to unfold with all of this.

I always want to make sure it’s a good match to work together, therefore to start, please book a free call here where we can connect and consider together the best plan for you.

Love

Emily

Reconnecting with your heart

Reconnecting with your heart

Heart reconnection and why it is important.

Its a difficult time in general at the moment, with seemingly so much to despair about, wars, ongoing issues of inequality, financial difficulties, the climate etc and if you are like me, then you can have days when you just feel a lot. So what do we do from this place of feeling so full of the gloom perspective? How do we pick ourselves back up and continue on living our everyday life? My suggestion and comfort has been learning and allowing joy back in, like a door way of light opening until that outshines the despair.

I share some simple tips for you to feel more soothed and even a bit more joyful by connecting to your heart.

1 Breathing

Oh I know its an obvious one and our bodies are so amazing at just doing things automatically, but I have been amazed at how even 3 minutes of conscious breathing can soothe. It is proven that abdominal breathing is supportive for our mind and body by calming our nervous system. I like to either box breathe, so 5.5 inhale, hold, exhale, hold or equal breaths of 4-8 seconds in and out from my abdomen. There are a wealth of apps on this and I am currently reading breath by James Nestor in case you wanted to delve deeper in to the knowledge.

Caring for you sea air refreshes body mind and soul

2 Connecting with a friend

Some of you know I have relocated back to Dorset and have had to re-find friendships and social communities. It is simple but oh so important to connect with our loved ones, getting out of the place you may have been ruminating and just sharing in a simple way how we are and listening and enjoying connecting. 

3 Movement 

We all know it endorphins get released from movement, so go find something you enjoy, hula hooping, skating, walking, canoeing, Pilates, running, ask yourself what would I like to try?

4 Nature

Autumn is a lush time to be out walking in the colourful leaves and breathing in that fresh air. I always feel clearer from going out, sometimes new insights arise or just help shift perspective.

Autumn tree getting out in nature for support

5 Limit news time

It is good to discern what information you are feeding yourself, of course staying up to date is important if you want to, however limit the time and perhaps chose the time you do this. For example is just before bed the best time? Are you checking it as an act of avoidance? It most likely may trigger things by reading the news, so just go into it knowing that, (at least for me I mostly dont find comfort in it).

6 Creativity

I have been enjoying doing the artists way a 12 week guide all about finding creativity and play with your inner child. Some of you may have done this, for me it has been so essential to give myself permission to play and enjoy the every day in simple ways. For example, allowing myself sweet treats, colouring in, dancing and being in nature. Whatever your enjoyments are, go do them. 

All of this will support you to feel lighter.

7 Nourishment

Guided visualisations, meditation, spas, healing treatments and yummy supports that help you shift perspective, soothe your nervous system and re-frame your thinking. The hardest part is often allowing ourselves the gift of nourishment, you are worthy. I have always been met with reward when I reach out for support for my own wellbeing.

8 Mbit coaching

Connecting you to your body and emotions

Reconnect in with your heart, by giving it space to share its wants and values. Our heart is a complex network, a bit like our head brain, it can communicate and sense and feel in its own hearty way. Unlike the head brain the hearts desires are really about compassion, love and relationships. Mbit is a beautiful way to connect in with our head, heart and gut brains to hear their wisdom and solutions. When we are more aligned within, it supports us in all areas to feel at our best and clearer in how we want to be in our lives. If you would like to find out more about a treatment, please click here.

So there you have it, 8 simple supports to reconnect back in with your heart and bring some joy and nourishment.

Sending you and your hearts love and warmth.

Emily

Talking About Depression

Sunflower image lifting out of depression

Talking About Depression

Talking openly about depression — and about depression awareness — helps to normalise it. When we share our experiences, we soften the isolation and remind ourselves that we’re not alone. I share what has supported me, along with ways to care for yourself and gently support others who may be going through something similar.

Depression can feel uncomfortable to talk about — a bit yucky, like admitting something we’re meant to keep hidden. It exposes our vulnerability. And yet, it can also bring comfort and connection, reminding us that as humans we all experience the same range of emotions.

Depression can arise in many ways: without an obvious cause, after a big high or rush of adrenaline followed by a crash, after trauma, or following something deeply sad or life-altering. However it shows up, it does show up — and it’s more common than we often admit.

How are you?” people ask.

As I feel the tears rising, “I’m okay” slips out easily. It’s enough to bat people away, or to move the conversation along to something else.

Inside, I know I’m not really okay. My head feels fuzzy. I’m out of sorts.

Being naturally caring, I often find it easier to focus on others — even when I feel awful inside. Listening, supporting, and holding space for others can feel safer than sitting with the darkness myself.

But what is this darkness?

For me, it’s a quiet space of stillness mixed with torment and oddness. I don’t quite feel like myself, yet I’m still functioning — just about. I might forget things at the shop after paying for them. I take longer to make decisions. I might feel more irritable, withdrawn, or short-tempered with the people I love most.

Sometimes, simply sharing what’s going on can make a huge difference. Not to burden others — but so they understand. So they know it isn’t about them.

It can be as simple as saying:
“I’m actually not feeling great. I feel quite flat, and it has nothing to do with you. If I seem distant or not myself, please know that.”
Or:
“I’m taking steps to support myself, and I trust that this will pass.”

For me, depression can look like low mood, replaying difficult memories, feeling trapped or stuck, crying, anger, lack of motivation, lethargy, or confusion. These are just my experiences — yours may look very different.

What matters is noticing your signs. Asking yourself honestly:
How am I really feeling?
Is this manageable?
How am I functioning day to day?

Getting real about your needs — and being brave enough to reach out — is a powerful commitment to yourself.

Supporting Others With Depression

When I sense that someone else is struggling, I’ve found it helpful to reach out gently — offering space, kindness, and love, without expectation. Sometimes this creates an opening for them to share; sometimes it simply allows a moment of lightness or relief.

Depression can feel slow and heavy. For me, it often takes more than a casual “Hey, you okay?” to be able to open up. Knowing there are slower, gentler pockets of opportunity to talk — with someone safe — can be deeply supportive.

Everyone opens up differently. Please don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t share with you.

There are also ways of being together without words — playing a game, going for a walk, watching something, or doing an activity they enjoy. These moments still matter. They soften, soothe, and remind us we’re not alone.

Support Options That Have Helped Me

Reaching out — to a loved one, an animal, a tree, a trusted human, or even an unseen presence — is a beautiful first step. Beyond that, there are many forms of professional and holistic support available. What I share here is from my own experience, and may not include everything that has helped you — or will help you.

Homeopathy
Working with a homeopath has given me space to share openly and receive remedies tailored to my emotional and mental state. This has been a gentle yet powerful support for me.

Holistic Treatments
Treatments such as Bowen therapy and Reiki have helped lift emotional weight, release stored trauma, and shift energy within my body and mind. They also offer deep calm, nourishment, and relaxation.

Holistic Coaching
This has supported me in reconnecting with myself — and with a sense of spiritual or universal support I had lost touch with. It helped me move out of victim mode and remember that I am supported, held, and not being worked against by life.

Guided visualisations — connecting with the earth, angels, or spirit guides — have been especially grounding for me. I’m no longer holding back this “woo-woo” aspect of my work. It’s how I support, and it’s how I work. I’m always guided by how deep someone wants to go — sometimes a simple visualisation is enough.

Self-Care at Home
Practices such as meditation, breathwork, and gentle movement help emotions move and disperse rather than staying stuck. There are many free apps and online offerings that can support this.

Shaking Things Up
Changing routines or environments can gently jolt the system and shift perspective — whether that’s taking a break, going somewhere new, or disrupting familiar patterns. Sometimes we need a caring nudge or a loving reality check: you are not your depression.

Trust the process of unwinding. It doesn’t need to be forced. Often, it unfolds gradually.

When You Feel Unwilling to Receive Support

Sometimes we know what helps us — yet still feel unwilling to receive it. In those moments, a gentle reminder that easeful support is available can help. Nothing shifts until we’re ready to say: Yes, I’m ready to receive help.

When You’re Unsure What Support Is Right

If you’re unsure what support is best, asking someone who’s been there can help. Muscle testing, kinesiology, or simply trying something and noticing how it feels can also guide you. Your body and mind often know more than you think.

My Offerings

I offer a free 20-minute chat, where I listen openly and compassionately and help guide you toward support that may suit your situation.

I offer MBIT coaching and Reiki, both in Dorset and remotely, to support decision-making, ease overwhelm, encourage relaxation, and help you feel more like yourself again. I also offer Holistic Counselling, providing space to be heard alongside energy practices that support emotional wellbeing.

In my experience, the most effective support nourishes both mind and body.

To Conclude

I wrote this during a very low point — and chose to share it after moving through that phase. The more openly we share our experiences, the easier it becomes to recognise our shared humanity and find solutions together.

To normalise this: everyone feels low or depressed at times. It’s okay. And there is so much support available.

Please reach out if this resonates, or if you’d like further support.

Sending love,
Emily 💛

Don’t let being alone stop you from doing what you want

Last year I went to Portugal by myself, a friend recently said how inspiring it was and she has now been traveling on her own too. I had no idea that it’s inspiring when as a woman you are not afraid to do things on your own. Maybe this is the same for men, I don’t know?

Truth is I have often been a lone cat, growing up rurally, I amused myself out in nature (singing to cows) When I was in my late teens, early 20s, my two main friends had boyfriends and I didn’t want to settle for not doing what I wanted just because I didn’t have friends available, so I didn’t! I went to Ecuador when I was 21, went to Greece twice when I was 22, then 23, been to spas, Portugal twice alone, been out for dinners, day trips and weekends away exploring. To be honest I stopped thinking of this as something different as it feels so normal for me.

Many sensitive and/or introverted beings often are content in their own company, you might also be and don’t identify with those labels. Maybe you are terrified to do things on your own, maybe you would like to try?

I realised maybe it’s good to talk about my experience of being content in my own company, rather than seeing this as something wrong or not cool. In an ideal world I probably would have a mix of both company and my own space but at some point there will be a void of a aloneness that I urge you to embrace.

Being on your own doesn’t always feel comfortable, for example I sometimes feel more afraid, more vulnerable, but the best bit is you also get to do exactly what you want. I also feel strong and independent in many ways, as well as love support from others and spending time with others. For me being in nature alone is the best, as I can really drink in the nourishment, I also find myself connecting with all the nature beings from the ants, to the trees and the birds, as they are also living and we are sharing this home together. This is opposed to hearing someone else talk to me, yes I’m a listener. I recently went on a boat trip and the guide said better to be on your own than in bad company, which I thought was funny and some truth to that.

Plus side

  • Get to do your own thing
  • Get to know yourself and how it feels being reliant on yourself, out of your comfort zones
  • It’s empowering
  • You get to connect with new, more people than you might if you were in a closed circle.

 

Down side

  • Feel things more, such as vulnerability
  • Can have annoying men attention, but less than you think, I think men are equally if not more afraid of their own company too.

The point of this is we are powerful, you are powerful, you don’t need to hide behind your phone, you can allow yourself to feel things, to be seen and don’t feel you can’t do something just because you have no one to go with.

Perhaps you are desperate to get 30 mins peace and quiet to yourself. Make it happen! You will for sure appreciate the company after this time.

Of course always tell someone where you are going, take care, be aware and be organised. If anyone ever wants tips or support, please write to me and I would be happy to share. Maybe you have some good advice/experience that you would like to share? Maybe there’s a way to build a network or tap into an existing pool of solo travellers. Let me know your thoughts here,

Love Emily

Manifest Goals 2023

Goals with Soul

Do you feel the pressure of the new year to create goals and achieve lots? Are you already being a bit hard on yourself? I share how to make goals with soul, that you can embody and manifest in a more real way. The goal/manifesting can be in relation to your work, finances, well-being, future partner, hobbies, time management, or whatever is right for you.

A new year or new intention is a chance for us to almost begin again and to be given another opportunity to upgrade, perhaps from things that didn’t go so well in the past. Some people fail to achieve goals, which in itself, is also fine, as it is often the path of learning the goal that something occurs, for example perhaps it isn’t what you actually want, or you see a different path. It may also be that the goal is not actually aligned with what you truly want. When I mean align, I’m talking in alignment with the next-level version of you and stepping into your power of taking responsibility for making something happen.

1. Write down 3 columns Predictable, Possible and Potential 

Give yourself some space to feel relaxed, have a hot bath, a walk, listen to some relaxing music and when the time feels right begin to write down some things you would like to achieve. If it helps you can break these down into 3 columns, predictable, possible and potential.

Predictable is what it says on the tin, the things you know will happen. Possible is what we get excited about, or what we want to create, but we haven’t achieved it yet, but we desire it as it feels good to us. This could be in the next days, or up to 12 months. Potential is the bigger pull, the 1 day, bigger dream, that still feels a long way away, perhaps in the next 3+ years.

2. Visualise achieving the goals

Manifest goals by imagining them as done

Once you have become clear in what goals you really want to bring about and feel good right now for you, imagine yourself having achieved it. Visualise it as best you can in your mind’s eye and bring that vision into your heart, how does it feel? What is different between the new you and how you are, or who you are today?

3. Alignment check-in

Are there any reasons why you wouldn’t want to achieve this goal? Are there any hidden doubts that could stop you from achieving this, are there any worries linked to achieving this goal? Allow yourself space to explore before investing in bringing about a goal.

4. What tools or support do I need to help bring this about?

Allow yourself permission to take all the practical and personal support that you need. This can look like learning, practical tools, emotional support, and time re arranging.

5. Map out the timings and stepping stones of the journey

Break down goals into steps

Start with where you are now, the mini figure above and in the opposite side of the page the future goal achieved, break down all the stepping stones along the way that you see you might need to put in place to achieve the goal. Do not worry if it isn’t clear right away, start with what you see the first step might be. The goal is there to inspire you, the steps are there to be practical and to make it happen.

Extra support – saying out loud, or writing down what you as an individual can do to take responsibility for achieving your goal and what the universe can do to support you. I give an example below of how this can be read. For more information on this table, check out Mike Dooley.

What I can do to take responsibility for   /  What the universe can do to support me.

I wish you all the best in playing with the possibilities and finding enjoyment in the exploration of this, allow yourself to dream as big or as little as feels right for you.

For more information and support, I am excited to be offering life coaching on a 1-2-1 basis where we explore these very things. I also can support you in shifting through any blocks that are holding you back. Blocks can be physical, mental/emotional and spiritual or energetic.

Be in touch here for support, or contact me via email hello@caringforyoutreatments.com.

Much love Emily

 

 

 

 

How to Make Better Decisions

How to Make Better Decisions 

Are you struggling to make a decision and get clear on something? Perhaps you have made a few rushed decisions before, that you realise didn’t sit right. You might find yourself at the point of wrestling with yourself and forcing an outcome to appear? 

It is sometimes wiser to commit to not making a decision at all (which is also a decision), take stock, unravel and be gentle on yourself. Relaxation offers the best support and trust in knowing you will arrive at a clear decision when the time is right, rather than forcing or rushing.

We are mostly in the mindset of having things we want quickly, taking medication to numb the pain, 24 hour shopping, fast deliveries, the amazing internet at offering the answer we want to anything in just a few moments, but what about making decisions? For sure we can ask the internet or ask friends what they would do, but ultimately the decision comes from us. There is also a responsibility in honouring that it is our choice, embodying that fully and taking ownership however the decision may unfold. 

I share 6 decision making tips to help you relax and make better decisions that sit right with you.

1. Getting out in the fresh air

Fresh air supporting your mind to feel clear

When we are sat around getting caught up in thinking, actually the freshness and change of scenery and getting in a different head space (literally) is a real support. Whether it’s the vastness of nature, seeing the bigger power than us, the sea, or a change of scene in a city, a fresh perspective is nourishing. A mountain top perspective is ideal, you don’t need to literally climb up somewhere higher, although you could, you can also imagine this in your mind and looking down from a birds eye view at a mini you and the decision choices.

2. Focus on relaxing in your body and mind

Women relaxing in the bath

Do whatever relaxes you, such as that refreshing post exercise feeling, your body being filled with fresh oxygen and energy. A relaxing yoga class, meditation, a healing treatment, or dancing. Whatever it is, do and enjoy that fully and be as present as you can with that. I have often read sometimes the best decisions come when you are in the bath. There is a gift in giving yourself a break and simply relaxing in the here and now, which can sometimes bring new insights rather than actively trying to think about it.

3. Be with friends

Taking support from friends in decision making

This may seem like a distraction list, but actually it’s getting you to re-connect with yourself in a round about way, so you are fuller on enjoyment, relaxation and kindness to yourself. Socialising with friends can bring us a smile, no matter how up tight we may seem in making this decision, it will happen easier if we can just lighten and relax a little. It may be we get to talk about it with our friends, the ones we trust and opening up and sharing can be soothing in itself. Your friend or friends need not say anything, simply listen to you, you can also take note of anything they do share and also know this is for you to reach a decision that sits right.

4. Write it all down

Writing down a list of pros and cons

Allow yourself to go there, with a pen and paper, all the things we hope, feel, hate, whatever it is, start by offloading it from your brain. This can look like writing a list of pros and cons about both decisions, which can allow you to see it all from both perspectives. It can be you re-visit this list, adding new insights, as it might be you have more to add, or actually what seemed like a block yesterday, is actually not a problem today. I would suggest setting a time limit on yourself for doing this, which can help bring focus in a shorter amount of time.

5. Focus on your loves

Reminding yourself of your qualities, your strengths, what you enjoy doing, can help shift you into a more abundant feeling. When we make decisions from scarcity and lack, it is harder to see the fuller picture and we want to focus on feeling more nourished in our self, to make the best decision we can. It may also be appropriate to remember any goals or ambitions you have and consider how this decision may support in bringing into your life what you really want.

6.Visualise both sides of the decision playing out

For those that have a more visual display, i.e. images/colours work more for you than words, you can visualise both sides of the decision playing out in your mind as if a yes looks like this, a no looks like that and notice how you feel in your head, heart and gut area as you do that. It might be a lighter or heavier feeling in your body, change of pace, temperature, sense or a change in how you experience both decisions, try as best you can to be aware of changes to your body and emotions as you do this. This is a simple exercise to test out and to not get too caught up in the thinking here, but it may bring knowledge to feeling more drawn or connected to one aspect of the decision.

If you are struggling with any of these exercises or in the decision then of course seeing a trained professional has its place too.

Mbit Coaching is a beautiful way to ask our three brains, head, heart and gut for their wisdom. Neuroscience now shows that neuro pathways are found in our heart and gut area, which demonstrates our natural intelligence we have to use there. Our heads offer creativity, our hearts compassion and our gut courage. Ideally we want all three brains aligned and listened to when making a decision that sits right, literally that sits right in our body and brains. You may find that your head wants one thing, but your heart or gut wants another and can often be why there is a struggle or wrestle in decision making. This is a beautiful relaxing process where we realise we have so much knowledge already within us to support ourselves.

Reiki also offers beautiful insights and asks for guided support from unseen beings, using oracle cards and light energy, which helps in removing blocks to chakras and can reveal a fresher energy and increased insights into what could support you.

Ultimately decisions can often work themselves out and knowing we can always change our mind or simply lean for the next decision. So, the key is relaxation, self-care, doing what you love and enjoy and using mind visualising or writing to support you in becoming clear.

Reach out if you need any support with this.

Love Emily x

 

Self Care for Grief

Self Care for Grief

Grief can express in many ways, from a bereavement of a loved one, a pet, or the loss of something, for example the realisation of not having children, or the ending of a relationship, or a change. I share all the ways to receive soothing support, as self-care, or from restorative treatments too.

Grief is processing a loss of something or someone and is really our great ability to love and appreciate a person, place or thing. At times it can be incredibly overwhelming, you can hear the phrase, struck with grief, being consumed and unable to do simple tasks. A mourning period is essential to process emotions, reflecting, cherishing and remembering what about that person or thing you loved and appreciated.

Everyone processes grief in their own way and time, for some it might feel easier to push feelings to one side to begin with, or have denial of a loss. It can even be even years later that you fully experience grief. It is in some ways a gradual unfolding of learning to process our thoughts and emotions overall.

There also can be other emotions stirring such as a clear seeing at the shortness of life and to not sweat the small stuff, this can jolt us into all sorts of behaviours. There may also be regret and or anger at something that did or didn’t happen.

Its important to know all of these strong emotions and thoughts are natural. They are also allowed to be in their very essence of energies in the body and with time and support there may even be learnings from dealing with this and from the loss of the connection.

Just as we process it uniquely, so to we can find ways to support us uniquely.

I share some self-care tips at home for grief.

 

These are suggestions only and at any point if you are really struggling then below there is practitioner supports further below too.

* Arnica – a Homeopathic first aid remedy in the strength of 30 c. Taken from the arnica flower, pictured below. It is specifically good for grief, shock and trauma. Bringing you back into your heart and soothing from emotional and physical stress.

arnica flower

 

* Star of Bethlehem Bach Flower Remedy – this is a flower remedy to support your body, emotions and mind in dealing with grief, stress and loss of a change.

Bach flower remedy for grief

* Writing down everything you feel onto some paper – giving yourself permission to unload whatever feels strong or that you want to write about onto paper. It doesn’t need to make sense, no one else needs to read this, it is a process of removing yourself a little from what is coming up for you.

The benefits of journaling

* Reflect on the love and appreciation – of the person, place or thing you are grieving for, you can also write this down as a cathartic process too. Holding your hands to your heart and really connecting in with that feeling, colour or sense of energy in your heart.

Reflecting on the love and appreciation of a person you have lost

* Focusing on what you feel will support you in this moment – a cup of tea and a piece of cake, a soothing bath, a walk with a friend, slowly you will heal. One day at a time – ask yourself what kind act can you do to support yourself today.

* Utilising your support network – whatever that looks like, a pet, family, friends, partner, neighbour, trusting in the people around you to offer you love and support.

Two people walking together and hugging

* Goodbye ceremony – Depending on your practices/rituals, I enjoy connecting with spirit guides and angels and asking for their guidance in the transition from the physical to the energetic realm, as I feel they have more awareness of this realm. You don’t need to take it that far, if this isn’t for you, it could be as simple as lighting a candle and holding an image of the loss in your heart, or bringing it to a meditation or taking a few breaths after reflecting. Do something that feels right for you and a familiar way to connect with the person or thing you have lost.

* Visualisations – imagine saying to the person or people involved anything you wanted to say that perhaps you didn’t have time for. You can imagine them listening to you and then it all floating away, like a basket on a river, or a washing away with water or a colour if that helps. This supports beginning to find closure and some distance from yourself and the person or thing you are wishing to let go of.

As always, home care tips serve as a great purpose until you see more support is needed, then below is support from practitioners.

 

Treatments

 

It may be a practitioner of some sort can help you make amends, perhaps there were things unresolved you now wish to process, or can help you move forward out of grief and putting into place now any learnings.

  • Bereavement counsellors – wonderful support if you want to speak to a trained professional in processing your loss. I offer Holistic Counselling, which offers a safe, compassionate space to be heard in your grief — without needing to rush, fix, or explain it away. It honours the emotional, physical, and spiritual layers of loss, gently supporting you to feel, release, and integrate your experience in your own time, while reconnecting with yourself and any spiritual support that feels right for you. You can read more here.
  • Bowen for grief – whether we logically understand it or not our body is a connected unit and our thoughts and emotions can also be stored in our muscle memory and affect our physical body. Grief can affect the lungs, so a cough may be present, or feeling tightness around the chest area and other parts of the body. Such as stiffness, sore lower back and exhaustion from emotional stress. Bowen is a gentle realignment treatment which releases tension or stuckness from fascia, which is a web that surrounds all our muscles, tissues and cells. Bowen provides deep relaxation, releasing of traumas and tissue tension. Usually after a session you feel soothed, sleep better and have less pain. Read more about Bowen here.
  • Reiki for connecting in to your body and with a loved one – a beautiful gentle treatment to feel supported by angels, spirits and guides that are unseen beings supporting you, bringing you love, light and healing energy to your body, emotions and energetic field. Pouring this beneficial energy into each chakra point, releasing negativity and any blocked energy that you no longer need. Bringing you closer to any supports that could aid your healing situation, including sometimes messages from a loved one, or a deeper connection with them and, or a deeper settling into the process of change. Read more about Reiki here.
  • Mbit coaching – this is a powerful way to connect in with your body and three brains, (head, heart and gut) We become connected to any unresolved feelings, see patterns and discover inner guidance and support that might aid processing the change. Especially helpful if forgiveness is needed, or supporting a decision making process, or finding compassion for your self or the thing you have lost. Read more about Mbit Coaching here.

As always reach out here for support should you need anything.

With love

Emily