How to Make Better Decisions

How to Make Better Decisions 

Are you struggling to make a decision and get clear on something? Perhaps you have made a few rushed decisions before, that you realise didn’t sit right. You might find yourself at the point of wrestling with yourself and forcing an outcome to appear? 

It is sometimes wiser to commit to not making a decision at all (which is also a decision), take stock, unravel and be gentle on yourself. Relaxation offers the best support and trust in knowing you will arrive at a clear decision when the time is right, rather than forcing or rushing.

We are mostly in the mindset of having things we want quickly, taking medication to numb the pain, 24 hour shopping, fast deliveries, the amazing internet at offering the answer we want to anything in just a few moments, but what about making decisions? For sure we can ask the internet or ask friends what they would do, but ultimately the decision comes from us. There is also a responsibility in honouring that it is our choice, embodying that fully and taking ownership however the decision may unfold. 

I share 6 decision making tips to help you relax and make better decisions that sit right with you.

1. Getting out in the fresh air

Fresh air supporting your mind to feel clear

When we are sat around getting caught up in thinking, actually the freshness and change of scenery and getting in a different head space (literally) is a real support. Whether it’s the vastness of nature, seeing the bigger power than us, the sea, or a change of scene in a city, a fresh perspective is nourishing. A mountain top perspective is ideal, you don’t need to literally climb up somewhere higher, although you could, you can also imagine this in your mind and looking down from a birds eye view at a mini you and the decision choices.

2. Focus on relaxing in your body and mind

Women relaxing in the bath

Do whatever relaxes you, such as that refreshing post exercise feeling, your body being filled with fresh oxygen and energy. A relaxing yoga class, meditation, a healing treatment, or dancing. Whatever it is, do and enjoy that fully and be as present as you can with that. I have often read sometimes the best decisions come when you are in the bath. There is a gift in giving yourself a break and simply relaxing in the here and now, which can sometimes bring new insights rather than actively trying to think about it.

3. Be with friends

Taking support from friends in decision making

This may seem like a distraction list, but actually it’s getting you to re-connect with yourself in a round about way, so you are fuller on enjoyment, relaxation and kindness to yourself. Socialising with friends can bring us a smile, no matter how up tight we may seem in making this decision, it will happen easier if we can just lighten and relax a little. It may be we get to talk about it with our friends, the ones we trust and opening up and sharing can be soothing in itself. Your friend or friends need not say anything, simply listen to you, you can also take note of anything they do share and also know this is for you to reach a decision that sits right.

4. Write it all down

Writing down a list of pros and cons

Allow yourself to go there, with a pen and paper, all the things we hope, feel, hate, whatever it is, start by offloading it from your brain. This can look like writing a list of pros and cons about both decisions, which can allow you to see it all from both perspectives. It can be you re-visit this list, adding new insights, as it might be you have more to add, or actually what seemed like a block yesterday, is actually not a problem today. I would suggest setting a time limit on yourself for doing this, which can help bring focus in a shorter amount of time.

5. Focus on your loves

Reminding yourself of your qualities, your strengths, what you enjoy doing, can help shift you into a more abundant feeling. When we make decisions from scarcity and lack, it is harder to see the fuller picture and we want to focus on feeling more nourished in our self, to make the best decision we can. It may also be appropriate to remember any goals or ambitions you have and consider how this decision may support in bringing into your life what you really want.

6.Visualise both sides of the decision playing out

For those that have a more visual display, i.e. images/colours work more for you than words, you can visualise both sides of the decision playing out in your mind as if a yes looks like this, a no looks like that and notice how you feel in your head, heart and gut area as you do that. It might be a lighter or heavier feeling in your body, change of pace, temperature, sense or a change in how you experience both decisions, try as best you can to be aware of changes to your body and emotions as you do this. This is a simple exercise to test out and to not get too caught up in the thinking here, but it may bring knowledge to feeling more drawn or connected to one aspect of the decision.

If you are struggling with any of these exercises or in the decision then of course seeing a trained professional has its place too.

Mbit Coaching is a beautiful way to ask our three brains, head, heart and gut for their wisdom. Neuroscience now shows that neuro pathways are found in our heart and gut area, which demonstrates our natural intelligence we have to use there. Our heads offer creativity, our hearts compassion and our gut courage. Ideally we want all three brains aligned and listened to when making a decision that sits right, literally that sits right in our body and brains. You may find that your head wants one thing, but your heart or gut wants another and can often be why there is a struggle or wrestle in decision making. This is a beautiful relaxing process where we realise we have so much knowledge already within us to support ourselves.

Reiki also offers beautiful insights and asks for guided support from unseen beings, using oracle cards and light energy, which helps in removing blocks to chakras and can reveal a fresher energy and increased insights into what could support you.

Ultimately decisions can often work themselves out and knowing we can always change our mind or simply lean for the next decision. So, the key is relaxation, self care, doing what you love and enjoy and using mind visualising or writing to support you in becoming clear. 

Reach out if you need any support with this.

Love Emily x

Self Care for Grief

Self Care for Grief

Grief can express in many ways, from a bereavement of a loved one, a pet, or the loss of something, for example the realisation of not having children, or the ending of a relationship, or a change. I share all the ways to receive soothing support, as self-care, or from restorative treatments too.

Grief is processing a loss of something or someone and is really our great ability to love and appreciate a person, place or thing. At times it can be incredibly overwhelming, you can hear the phrase, struck with grief, being consumed and unable to do simple tasks. A mourning period is essential to process emotions, reflecting, cherishing and remembering what about that person or thing you loved and appreciated.

Everyone processes grief in their own way and time, for some it might feel easier to push feelings to one side to begin with, or have denial of a loss. It can even be even years later that you fully experience grief. It is in some ways a gradual unfolding of learning to process our thoughts and emotions overall.

There also can be other emotions stirring such as a clear seeing at the shortness of life and to not sweat the small stuff, this can jolt us into all sorts of behaviours. There may also be regret and or anger at something that did or didn’t happen.

Its important to know all of these strong emotions and thoughts are natural. They are also allowed to be in their very essence of energies in the body and with time and support there may even be learnings from dealing with this and from the loss of the connection.

Just as we process it uniquely, so to we can find ways to support us uniquely.

I share some self-care tips at home for grief.

These are suggestions only and at any point if you are really struggling then below there is practitioner supports further below too.

* Arnica – a Homeopathic first aid remedy in the strength of 30 c. Taken from the arnica flower, pictured below. It is specifically good for grief, shock and trauma. Bringing you back into your heart and soothing from emotional and physical stress.

arnica flower

* Star of Bethlehem Bach Flower Remedy – this is a flower remedy to support your body, emotions and mind in dealing with grief, stress and loss of a change.

Bach flower remedy for grief

* Writing down everything you feel onto some paper – giving yourself permission to unload whatever feels strong or that you want to write about onto paper. It doesn’t need to make sense, no one else needs to read this, it is a process of removing yourself a little from what is coming up for you.

The benefits of journaling

* Reflect on the love and appreciation – of the person, place or thing you are grieving for, you can also write this down as a cathartic process too. Holding your hands to your heart and really connecting in with that feeling, colour or sense of energy in your heart.

Reflecting on the love and appreciation of a person you have lost

* Focusing on what you feel will support you in this moment – a cup of tea and a piece of cake, a soothing bath, a walk with a friend, slowly you will heal. One day at a time – ask yourself what kind act can you do to support yourself today.

* Utilising your support network – whatever that looks like, a pet, family, friends, partner, neighbour, trusting in the people around you to offer you love and support.

Two people walking together and hugging

* Goodbye ceremony – can bring closure to something you have lost. Using a figure of 8 visualisation, where you and the person or item you are saying goodbye too, are connected in the figure of 8, each one in each circle of the 8 and at any point you can imagine that being cut down the middle. This is a way of letting go of what you no longer need and imagine a releasing from any tied connections.

* Visualisations – imagine saying to the person or people involved anything you wanted to say that perhaps you didn’t have time for. You can imagine them listening to you and then it all floating away, like a basket on a river, or a washing away with water or a colour if that helps. This supports beginning to find closure and some distance from yourself and the person or thing you are wishing to let go of.

As always, home care tips serve as a great purpose until you see more support is needed, then below is support from practitioners.

 

Treatments

It may be a practitioner of some sort can help you make amends, perhaps there were things unresolved you now wish to process, or can help you move forward out of grief and putting into place now any learnings.

  • Bereavement counsellors – wonderful support if you want to speak to a trained professional in processing your loss.
  • Bowen for grief – whether we logically understand it or not our body is a connected unit and our thoughts and emotions can also be stored in our muscle memory and affect our physical body. Grief can affect the lungs, so a cough may be present, or feeling tightness around the chest area and other parts of the body. Such as stiffness, sore lower back and exhaustion from emotional stress. Bowen is a gentle realignment treatment which releases tension or stuckness from fascia, which is a web that surrounds all our muscles, tissues and cells. Bowen provides deep relaxation, releasing of traumas and tissue tension. Usually after a session you feel soothed, sleep better and have less pain. Read more about Bowen here.
  • Reiki for connecting in to your body and with a loved one – a beautiful gentle treatment to feel supported by angels, spirits and guides that are unseen beings supporting you, bringing you love, light and healing energy to your body, emotions and energetic field. Pouring this beneficial energy into each chakra point, releasing negativity and any blocked energy that you no longer need. Bringing you closer to any supports that could aid your healing situation, including sometimes messages from a loved one, or a deeper connection with them and, or a deeper settling into the process of change. Read more about Reiki here.
  • Mbit coaching – this is a powerful way to connect in with your body and three brains, (head, heart and gut) We become connected to any unresolved feelings, see patterns and discover inner guidance and support that might aid processing the change. Especially helpful if forgiveness is needed, or supporting a decision making process, or finding compassion for your self or the thing you have lost. Read more about Mbit Coaching here.

As always reach out here for support should you need anything.

With love

Emily

 

How to treat colds naturally

How to treat colds naturally

I share my top tips on how to treat colds naturally at home, using self-care tips, using natural supplements for self-healing. This can also be used for when you have Covid too.

Self care tips

Using the mind to support healing

Put your feet up and relax

Nutritional supplements

Herbal remedy for covid support

Fluids to hydrate

Press sinus points to relieve congestion

Relax with fear

Gentle movement

Support your nervous system

Tapping thymus gland

Fresh air natural care tips

Neck drainage when ill

Homeopathy

For more support and information, feel free to contact me here – Contact & Book.

Living with fear

Living with fear

What fear actually is, how it affects our little bodies and hearts and all my tips to support you little treasures in living with fear.

We’re swimming in it at the moment, it’s coming out of the news like hot cakes, on the headlines, in the paper, in the guidelines. Of course I understand some of the guidelines are to support us, but the media really have an lot to answer for, this ability to whip us up into a frenzy can be so harmful.

We also have every right to read up and listen to as much of the ever changing news as we like, so how do we live with all this fear around us?

Solutions have to come from within, finding your own way to process the triggers felt, mixed messaging and pressure coming from a place of fear. 

Fear, otherwise known as False, Evidence, Appearing Real, this is a good analogy if you are like me and scared of the dark, as soon as the lights go off, I can imagine a monster is going to come and gruesomely devour me! I also can’t watch those sorts of movies, you know the ones that leave you terrified before going to bed, they hang around and haunt me for ages. This fear analogy could also be used for some of the hype and media BS that we are being fed, false evidence appearing real?! Ooooo Emily, put your claws away!

Another saying I hear, is feel the fear and do it anyway, well in the current situation, I feel its more, feel the fear and simply batten down the hatches. However there is some truth in this saying, there are ways to push through fear if there is something you really want to do, you can tap into that courage and hunger, I share more about solutions for this below in the therapy section.

If your like me and agitated and triggered easily by the next scary monster around the corner, you might find my tips below useful on dealing with hype and fear that we are currently facing. 

Fear tips below

Focusing on my loves/passions/what I like to do

I always harp on about this but if you are sat there re-watching or obsessing over the news, you will be fed with more worry. I am not staying don’t keep yourself up to date, but focusing your time being poured into your loves, perhaps its creative writing, longboarding, dancing, gardening, baking, reading, whatever tickles your heart, go do it! It’s an act of kindness and nourishing self care. 

Exercise, that you enjoy

I love weight training and I am lucky to have an awesome PT, who really makes me giggle, so I get a double hit giggles, endorphins released and yeah my biceps are getting  bigger 😉 nothing wrong with small biceps either 🙂 

Fresh air

Walking, getting in that fresh air, Vitamin D from the sun and connecting with your buddies and nature in the physical is so important. It provides that time out, to gain a fresher perspective, literally, you are breathing in a different environment and gives an opportunity to gain the bigger perspective on things. Whenever I see the sea, not only does it calm me, but it makes me realise my problems/fears seems a bit small when facing a vast energy that’s always changing, the sea! 

Having a morning routine that isn’t harmful

being a human is full on enough, mornings can be full on enough for us non morning people, so starting with your stretches, cup of tea, music, just be super gentle on yourself, you don’t need to launch straight into the drama, but then again perhaps you need that to get you going?! Not my cup of tea, though, literally.

Knowing where my support is

Following, staying close to speakers, social media accounts, that I feel resonate, comfort and support me. It might be someone, something that makes you laugh, or speaks up when you feel you can’t, or simply makes you feel relaxed. I am lucky enough to have the presence of a guru in my life, which isn’t for everyone, for some its their football community or going to church, or listening to a podcast, whatever it is, make sure it supports you.

Preparing before I read the news

Reading the news to keep up to date, but preparing before I look, it’s 99% going to be something in the headlines, that I don’t agree with or will push my irritation buttons, so I ask myself, is now the best time to read this, do I want to do this to myself? If you feel strong and ready, then go right ahead. But its a good one to take a step back before going in, think of it like going into the fire pit and its a good time to check in with yourself.

Fear, what does it do to us?

What does it do to our bodies? It stimulates the hormone cortisol to be released from our adrenal glands, which sit above the kidneys, providing our nervous system with the stimulated fight or flight response. Are we preparing to fight and speak up, or are we retreating or freezing? Of course some fear is perfectly natural and beneficial, as we are wild creatures adapting to change, but too much and its going to agitate our nervous system and deplete our immune system.

What does fear do to our emotions? Fear elicits a response from our gut brain, (we have 3 brains our head, heart and gut) which often negates the heart brain, so yes, our hearts our closing off and we might not be as compassionate and our rational mind is gone off for a vacation.

If your struggling after trying self care tips at home, then check out the below therapy solutions

Reiki – the most relaxing, gentle treatment there is, opening up the heart chakra, soothing your nervous system and providing insight and clarity tailored just for you precious beings. Most people share they feel more refreshed, clearer and connected after a treatment. Check out zen Ted below, getting his chakras aligned.

Reiki practitioner Bristol

Mbit coaching – connecting in with your three brains (head, heart and gut) and most importantly listening to your heart, opening it up and engaging again with your heart felt values. A guided coaching session to help you feel more connected to your self.

Fear is felt in the front of the gut and courage is felt in the back of the gut, which can help push through the fear, once the nervous system is balanced and we are clear on what we want to achieve and what our blocks are.

Listen to your gut

Bowen – another lush treatment to soothe your nervous system, small rolling moves made over specific points on fascia, (a web network surrounding our muscles, joints, ligaments and nerves), to unravel, unwind and soothe, mind, body and emotions. Trauma and tissue tension is released, providing deep relaxation. 

Bowen technique back care

Arnica – a beautiful homeopathic remedy from the arnica flower, below, that is gentle and incredibly potent at bringing you back into your heart, soothing from stress, shock, trauma, injury and also blood clots. It’s a heart remedy for the physical and emotional. 

arnica flower

Hopefully that provided some useful tools and techniques in dealing with fear. Be in touch here if I can support further.

How to connect mind and body

How to connect mind and body

I’m chuffed as chipmunks that I am now an mBit coach!  What does that mean? I hear you ask, well it basically means I have another string to my bow, to support beings to be connected to their bodies, specifically to support people to connect mind and body together, yeay! 

Neuroscience shows that we have 3 brains, your head, heart & gut. Each one of these has its own function & purpose.

The head brain analyses, is logical & can produce creative solutions when balanced.

Listen to your head brain

The heart brain feels, values, shares our true wishes & offers compassionate support when balanced.

Listen to your heart

The gut brain identifies with our core self, our true identity, has an impulse for action & offers courage as the greatest support when balanced.  

Listen to your gut

Sometimes our brains have a conflict with one another, so you know deep down what resonates with you, but you just don’t take action & you freeze without any movement at all.

Or

You know your hearts wish, but you stick to what’s logical for you, but your always wondering what’s best for you?

Mbit coaching is for those that:-

  • You experience internal conflict within yourself between your thoughts, feelings & actions.
  • You’ve not acted upon your dreams, goals & plans
  • You do unwanted behaviours of habits & you don’t know why or have difficulty stopping
  • You find it difficult to make decisions
  • Something within you is making it difficult for you to motivate yourself to take action
  • You sabotage yourself from achieving your goals

Mbit coaching is useful for:-

  • Goal/outcome setting
  • Decision making
  • Problem solving
  • Harnessing your intuition
  • Cultivating understanding & perspective
  • Relationships
  • Health & wellbeing

Mbit coaching provides a framework for you to connect in with your brains, truly listen & access alignment.

This allows for:-

  • More relaxation,
  • Greater clarity,
  • You move forward with a clearer knowing of yourself & what it is you really want.
  • You feel more connected to your true self & balanced,
  • It is excellent for decisions &
  • supporting when you feel blocked or stuck.

Its neuroscience meets ancient wisdom & the best part is that you develop this by tapping into your bodies/brains own potential.

Hooray for that!

Drop me a message if you would like to find out more about mbraining coaching.

Healing with colour

Healing with colour

My experience of discovering my colour palette and using reiki healing

 

I have always loved using colour as a support, including staring off my healing journey at a colour therapy centre, when I was 14. I understood colour could carry a vibration, which could magically amend any energy that was blocked or not serving and magically restore an area that felt a bit hurty.

Colour therapy healing bottles

A few friends have had their ‘colours done’ meaning you go and see a colour stylist who suggests what season your skin tone/colourings suit. This can be, Spring, Summer, Autumn or Winter. Curiosity as the cat is me, I also wanted to explore what colours would support me best.

It was a totally beautiful experience of exploring colour and it made me reflect on how I have dressed and how it made me feel. For example baggy clothes can be used to cover ourselves up, when we don’t feel so nice, or don’t want to be seen, perhaps only wearing clothes with holes in if we don’t have much self respect or self-love.

Do you ever feel uncomfortable if you wear something that shows off too much skin? Or you might wear a bold colour if you want to make a statement and be seen? All of these are questions to ask yourself and reflect a little gently on how you use colour and clothing to express how we feel. Of course honouring clothing can perhaps be what’s comfortable and practical to fit into our lives.

What colour suits me best

This was me wearing some of my WOW colours, which you should wear close to your face. I was told that I am a deep berry summer and that lots of blues and reds are supposed to be good for me, what?! I never wear those colours, but actually when I got home, I realised I did have a lot of blues. Also I can wear purples, which is so good as I love purple! Other colours in my palette are primrose yellow, pinks and deep greens, but with no black! The idea is to wear 5 different colours, which actually is easier than you first think by the time you had socks, accessories, scarves etc.

Using colour to settle more into your body

Dressing and colours are simply another way to feel grounded and connected to your body and celebrating being as you are. They can boost your confidence and self esteem and give you support throughout the day.

I remember in one of my old jobs we had a dress up Thursday, we all worked from home and it was so fun to put on a pair of earrings, lippy, or a colourful scarf, so simple and yet can bring some fun and colour into our days.

I have really seen a shift in my choice of clothes and it feels good self-care practice and is so fun. It adds another layer of confidence and support to my days.

Colour and healing

Crystal healing caring for you

I love using colourful crystals in my reiki treatments and I place them over each chakra point (energy centre) to soothe and support. If a certain chakra is a bit blocked, of course the healing reiki energy and the crystal can unblock it, but it may also be a support to wear that colour or eat or drink that colour. For example your throat chakra is how we communicate to the world, where we share what we would like, we speak up for ourselves, its also our thyroid area which is part of our immune system. Wearing a blue scarf, a blue necklace, treating yourself to some blue flowers, or even a blueberry smoothie, can all aid supporting your throat chakra to feel its happiest.

I often recommend to clients using colour as a way to be playful, it could be doodling, colouring in, or even writing down some ideas on paper, as a way to get clear on a task, or to unburden it from our minds.

If you would like to know more about healing with colour, then do reach out here. I use colour to support in reiki treatments, which is a deeply relaxing treatment to align you emotionally & energetically.

House of colour was how I found my colour stylist.

Happy colouring.

Happy lady with colour tulips

What does it mean to listen to your body?

What does it mean to listen to your body?

Body awareness and listening to your body, can mean….

♥ Feeling connected and settled within your own skin suit.

♥ Listening to what is going on with your body, i.e where are the aches, tension, does something not feel right.

♥ Feeling grounded with who you are 🙂

♥ Feeling more grounded into your environment, ahhhh

♥ Recognising your limits and understanding when to stop when close to burn out.

♥ Honouring your energy patterns and cycles, i.e. some days we are more hungry, some days we are more tired.

♥ Feeling more in tuned with your period cycles

♥ big listening ears below 😉

Caring for you listening

The benefits of listening to your body?

♥ It is easier to relax as you are, into your skinsuit, with all your imperfections 😉

♥ It is easier to love yourself as you are and to honour your uniqueness

♥ You understand the areas more prone to illness ⇒ which means you can strengthen those areas.

♥ Better understanding of the areas more prone to illness = using them as a sign that you might be doing too much/managing stress.

♥ You feel clearer about what your body needs, knowing when to seek support.

♥ You are able to rest, be still and sleep more easily

♥ It may reduce the time and severity of acute illness

♥ Less likely to have emotions harbouring away in our muscle memory, which may lead to further complications physically.

♥ Better understanding of others

body awareness and listening

How I support you to feel more body aware and listen to your body 

Bowen Technique and reiki treatments

♥ Relaxation♥ Firstly taking time out to really allow your body and mind to have a recharge, a re-set and feel more at ease. Bowen is wonderfully soothing to all ailments and calms down the nervous system, so your body can feel relaxed.

♥ I check and feedback on postural habits, anything out of alignment, weaker or tension in a particular body area. We then work together to understand previous injuries/traumas, looking at your lifestyle and how you carry yourself into the world.

The therapies themselves can free up restrictions, re-align, reduce pain, soothe emotional stress and provide relaxation.

♥ After receiving a series of treatments, you then have the knowledge of which areas need strengthening and are encouraged to find an exercise you enjoy.

 Relaxing Bowen healing treatment room central bristol

Online or face-to-face programme, coming soon!

This is a programme delving deeper into body awareness, looking at:

  • each area of the body, the physical/emotional connection
  • recognising past events such as injuries/trauma
  • reflecting on your lifestyle
  • distant or in person reiki healing to unblock stagnant energy and align your chakras
  • meditation using body scans and either nature, water or colour to deepen your ability to listen
  • self soothing physical squidges to tune into tense areas and relieve them
  • group support ♥

Relaxing in nature and listening to the sounds

Be in touch here should you like to be supported to understand your body, listen to it and understand what it needs to thrive.

Caring For You Community Manifesto

Caring For You Community – self care group

 

Caring for you treatments relaxation support

I wrote these in response to where I see my clients pain and struggles are, so I turned them into solutions and how I can support you.

You struggle with one or more of the below:

Physical pain – I am able to do what I love pain free

Musculoskeletal restriction – I no longer feel restrictions hold me back

Stress – I give myself permission to feel truly relaxed

Burnout – I give myself time to recover and feel refreshed

Tiredness – I feel soothed, comforted and at ease

Overwhelm and busy – I carve a daily schedule that supports me 

Lacking direction of how to treat my symptom – Firstly I am ready to love and take good care of myself

Unclear of how to feel supported with my physical or emotional symptoms – I start by feeling grounded and connected to my body

In need of guidance on how to take care of my body – I feel supported and clear on how to take care of my body

Unclear on my career choice – I am clearer on what it is I love to do

Doesn’t receive the healing touch I need – I deserve to feel well in my body

Past or current emotional trauma – I release pain points of the past

Emotional symptoms such as not feeling loved, doubts and or anxiety – I am gentle and squidgy on myself

Lack of sleep – I am allowed to rest easy at night

Feeling out of sorts – I now feel more myself

 

Would you like to know more about self-care? There’s a whole bunch of amazing women who have already joined and we are supporting each other with giggles, education and empowerment, click here to join.

If any of this relates to you, then I am here to support you. I love working with those that have the above difficulties and I truly believe every woman is deserving to feel relaxed and well within their bodies. I offer a gentle alignment technique, that is relaxing and restorative. It quickly reduces acute pain and provides alignment that holds, as it is so relaxing. I also soothes with trauma or emotional disturbances and releases them from the muscles and tissues of the body, so you feel relaxed, refreshed, cared for and more yourself. 

Alongside Bowen technique, I also love pressing sore points on your feet and squidging tense muscles to help promote relaxation. I also use reiki to tune in and ask for guidance that you might need. I offer lifestyle support to ensure we prevent injury/acute pain happening again in the future. 

Book a free call Contact & Book with me to see how I can help you. Approx 15 mins.

Touch Hunger

Touch Hunger

How to deal with touch deprivation

For all beings during this last year we have had to get used to not seeing as many of our loved ones, also not giving or receiving as much touch and receiving the message that the best thing we can do is keep away from everyone! For many of us this has been hard, especially those that have been living alone/feel more energy from being around others/are empaths or sensitive beings. Of course the internet and all the amazing tools we have to stay connected has been crucial, but it can’t replace touch. We probably didn’t even realise the amount of natural touch we received before in our interactions, taking it for granted even, a gentle tap on your arm from even a distant friend seems soothing right now.

Did you know when you receive touch, love and affection, oxytocin (a neurochemical responsible for building relationship) is released in your brain, this supports you in feeling connected, safe and loved and it can lessen anxiety and pain. I imagine at this time we are all a bit low on the neurochemical oxytocin, so symptoms can look like feeling alienated from other brings, a lack of bond with a community and finding it difficult to share appreciation and gratitude.

A way to boost oxytocin levels is through touch and hugging someone, here is how I have been coping with self-care to soothe touch hunger in lockdown.

Hugging trees

Okay you might feel a bit silly, but seriously trees have seen a lot more sh** that we have (literally), they are living, wise and ancient  beings, that can support us to feel rooted and connected to the earth. This can also soothe our root chakra, which is the energy centre associated with security and survival (quite big topics that feel shakey at this time). Also it can soothe with feeling love, touch and releasing oxytocin. 

If you think I am making this up, try it! Also this is essentially part of forest bathing, a huge movement in Japan where its actually prescribed to lower blood pressure and reduce anxiety and stress. 

 

Hugging trees to increase oxytocin

Wearing cuddly jumpers that feel soft on your skin

This always feels nice to wear softy, comfy clothes to feel soothed and cuddled, it also supports activating your touch receptors with different textures. Try stroking a fluffy cushion, wearing a cosy jumper, wearing yummy Brighton Lace underwear, even the texture of plants! Yes stroking plants, I see ways to feel soothed and I am sharing them as we all know at this time we need some support.

Feeling soothed by touch

Gentle squidy self-care

Putting flowers by my bed, as an act of love and self care and plus you wake up and the room smells amazing, perhaps not so good if you suffer from allergies or hay fever though. These are my fav flowers called hyacinth. Simply finding gentle ways to be caring and gentle on yourself, maybe its adjusting your schedule slightly, or having a bath with a few drops of lavender in, or self-massage to your feet. All of this will support relaxation and care of the self.

Flowers by your bed self care

 

Using colour as a self-healing tool

Maybe its painting your nails a really bright colour, picking out clothes with colours you feel attracted too, or doodling or colouring in, using plain paper of a colouring book. Using colours can soothe as it is allowing us to feel creative and play. Colour also carries vibration and can provide healing as it can nourish our chakra points (7 energy centres of the body that are thought to be connected to a colour). Did you know the colour blue is connected to your throat chakra, where we find our voice and speak up for what supports us, it also is connected to our thyroid and immune response. Apparently just looking at the colour blue can release oxytocin! You can also simply try imagining a colour being wrapped around you and feeling nurtured and safe, this is a simple visualisation tool.

Exercise

As it increases oxytocin! Exercise can look like trampolining for 10 mins, listening to your fav music and dancing around the house. Pick something that you enjoy!

Supplements

Caps moodoo from Ringana can improve mental resilience and provide greater serenity, which is ideal for restoring emotional balance if you’re battling with the autumn and winter blues or PMS. An extract of ashwagandha root promotes physical and mental relaxation processes and helps you to find peace.

Moo doo to support oxytocin touch hunger

Meditation

Whether its holding or looking at a crystal, being out and finding peace in nature, or seated/standing meditations, this can soothe to find peace within our mind. My fav is a simple body scan, where you can go through each part of the body and checking in how it feels and making sure it is relaxed, like turning a light on in each part. Some people find writing down their worries can support removing yourself from the stressor, remembering the bigger picture and also connecting to others going through the same suffering can also support.

Receiving healing

Failing all that if your really blue and down in the dumpsters, reach out as I am offering distant healing at this time. It is incredibly powerful to receive a flood of light energy in the body, blasting out the cobwebs and providing fresh energy in areas that feel stagnant. This creates peacefulness and feeling more yourself. I am also delivering Bowen technique at this time and hot stone massage as urgent treatments for those that feel they are struggling with physical pain and/or emotional discomfort.

To conclude

If you are lucky enough to have a pet that likes to be touched then yeay for cuddles with them. I don’t have a partner at current, or a pet, but I do hug plants, trees and teddies.

Natural Facial Products – What products do you use for a facial?

What products do you use for a facial?

I share what products I use for an easeful facial routine at home to take care of your skin

 natural vegan skincare on your face

Facial routines and products are an individual choice based on what you feel supports your skin type, money comes into the choice, product ingredients, i.e is it natural? I hope by now vegan products are the most obvious solution, but do you also consider sustainability? Knowing that your creams will be washed off and end up in the ocean or do the containers end up in landfill? If you are like me and you love skincare, or whether you just want to slap on something you know will work best for both you and the planet, then have a read below, as I share what products I use for a facial in an easeful and simple way.

All the products I share are natural, organic where possible, award winning, vegan, made from a carbon neutral provider using sustainable packaging. I have been a lover of natural skincare as long as I can remember and offering luxury facials for over 5 years.

Cleanser – its there to remove dirt, make up and pollution. Its also there to cleanse your skin before you add any goodies to absorb into it, i.e serums or moisturiser, it also removes sebum to avoid build up of, wait for it *dramatic scary music*, blemishes.

I use Ringana cleanser which has some yummy goodies in like sesame oil, ginkgo, jojoba and almond kernel in. It is vegan, housed in packaging made out of corn starch, its the prefect texture for me to enjoy massaging into the skin and it feels very softening and soothing.

How to apply – Apply to damp face, neck and upper chest area, massage in for up to 1 minute, to remove eye make up, pop some on two cotton pads, hold it there for a bit before wiping and removing, rinse off with a warm flannel. 

My favourite product to use caring for you treatments

Toner – its there to remove cleanser, but also to tighten your pores if your skin is oily, and soothe the skin if its sensitive. I once heard to not use toner is like not cleaning your shower, over time the scale builds up. Toner helps to restore the skin barrier’s ideal, which is a slightly acidic environment.

I use – Ringana tonic calm, as sometimes other toners have caused my face to feel stingy, so this one is perfect for sensitive skin. It has active substances from lactic acid bacteria that supply the skin with moisture, natural balance and reduce skin irritations. It also has hibiscus flower which rejuvenates and betaine from sugar which protects the skin drying out. For oily skin and large pores you can try tonic pure.

How to apply – a few squirts on a cotton pad and wipe over face

Tonic calm what products do I use

Serum – floods the skin with maximum moisture for smooth skin, it hydrates and prevents dryness, fine lines and goes to the depth and level where needed. The molecules are often smaller than a moisturiser, so they reach a deeper level of skin to moisturise.

I use – Hydro serum in the day with fresh adds glow to protect in particular from pollution as I live in a city. In the evening I just use the Hydro serum.

How to apply – 1 pump of each and lightly apply with fingers over the face, neck and upper chest area, only apply around the eye area.

Hydrating serum for your skin Fresh glow to soothe with pollution

 

Moistuiser – A high-quality nourishing cream is “daily bread for the skin”. It supplies the skin not only with fats and hydration, but also contains substances that protect it from everyday stress factors and environmental influences.

I use Ringana medium moisturiser which is perfect for my normal to oily skin, they also do a light and a rich for more oily or dryer skin types. It contains the jiaogulan plant, which is also known as the immortality herb, it has an antioxidant effect and strengthens the skin barrier, it has substances from the rock rose to moisture in the skin and Cupuacu, mango and shea butter nourish the skin. Its also an award winning product!

How to apply – I apply after serum, both morning and night.

Amazing moisturiser caring for you

In the morning I wash with plain water and add serum and moisturiser, this suits my routine and skin, I very rarely wear make up and like the idea of not washing away natural oils on the skin, which is supportive in winter.

In the evening I use the cleaner, toner, hydro serum and moisturiser.

You can cleanse and tone both morning and evening should you wish to and I would encourage testing out what suits you best.

I haven’t mentioned exfoliator, eye serum, masks, lip balm, gua sha tools or face yoga, as I chose to keep this simple and I don’t use these items daily.

Just to touch on Nutricsometics – internal skin care health, is even more important, I eat plenty of vegetables and drink plenty of water, getting out in the fresh air and relaxation can all support with taking care of your skin too.

Want to know more? Book in a free online skin consultation to discover your skin type and I can offer product suggestions and a routine to suit your skin type.

Happy home facialing.

Best Spa Bristol

Best Spa Bristol

My top 5 spas around Bristol

Being a spa queen & lover of being warm & comfy, I naturally get asked where can you go to get a good jacuzzi and sauna, especially in the colder months, so here are my fav spas in Bristol.

Happy spa lady Bristol

This is me when I go to the spa, happy, excited and like, get me in there asap excitement!

1. LivingWell Centre – free to some MoveGB customers, £6.70 with the app, Hussle & membership options monthly. 

Pros/cons – the changing room is often full of kids due to lessons, but only in the day. It has a nice jacuzzi, but it can sometimes be out of action, so call to check it is open before you go. It has a sauna, steam room and pool. The car park is free for 2 hours, any longer and need to get a ticket from the machine. Also the England rugby club were once training in there!

2. Aztec West Hotel & spa – add on fee for MoveGB customers, £15 day pass with the app, Hussle & pricey monthly membership options. Get a £10 off voucher with this code https://hussle.mention-me.com/m/ol/zp4mr-emily-dike

Pros/cons – a lovely place and its not usually that busy, it has a plush jacuzzi (although it can smell of chlorine) lovely steam room, pool and sauna. It has nice chaise longue so you can lye out, with an outdoor area too. No kids lessons so its peaceful (no offense to small beings).

3. Bristol Harbour Hotel – free to Classpass members, morning day package starts at £75 Refresh Spa Morning in Bristol | Harbour Hotels.

Pros/cons – it’s always a bit hot in there in general, but it’s in a cool underground old bank vaults building, not for those that have claustrophobia. It has a jacuzzi, sauna and steam room. 

4. Bath spa, I know, it’s not in Bristol but it’s so lovely and a fun day out on the train. 2 hour visit is £37 Monday-Friday, £42 Saturday-Sunday and this is plenty of time for this spa queen.

Pros/cons – it is always brilliant, with a roof top bubbly pool, minerva whirlpool, steam rooms and sauna. I am not overally keen on the ice room though and the steam room doors don’t shut very well. The best bet is to get there early, as it can get busy, then float out for lunch and drink loads of water, it makes you thirsty all this spa-ing.

The Clifton lido is amazing and the make their own chlorine, so you come out smelling less of chlorine, go with a member for £10 or become a member (waiting list in operation)

Cadbury House Hotel and Spa I heard is also supposed to be nice, but not been myself, have you? Let me know if so. 

I heard Nuffield Health is nice for gym/swimming memberships & has thermae facilities.

If I have missed one, or you would like me to add an option, feel free to let me know in the comment below.

If you want to know more about the benefits of steam rooms on your muscles see here.