Decision Making Support

Decision Making Support

It can be a real torment when we are unsure about something, part of us might know the answer, but the other part of us might feel unsure or doubt if you can really trust yourself. Therefore you remain in the stuck limbo, wondering and pondering, maybe even repeating the same patterns and or self-sabotaging.

Feeling a bit lost, actually gives you space to take stock and re-grow into new energy, focus or direction. It is also a time to develop a connection to yourself and listen and explore what it is you do want. The not knowing can cause frustrations and irritations in itself, but it is totally possible to crawl out of the stuckness, into a clearer more fuller you.

Receive holistic coaching and emotional support around the topic, my calming decision support is mostly in 3 ways.

1 Checking in with yourself through relaxation and trusting inner wisdom.

2 Be listened to and find relief from sharing the challenges you are facing and gaining new insights,

3 Receive universal guidance from your highest self and spirit guides, is this aligned right now.

Each session is up to 90 minutes depending how long it is needed to break free and become clear. A follow-up session supports keeping you accountable for any changes that are made and a kind way to check in how you are.

If it is more of a Chronic challenge you are facing indecision about and it feels more deep-seated then, Mbit Coaching is recommended. You may need up to 6 sessions depending on each individual.

This involves breathwork, guided visualisation and connecting into our 3 brains, head, heart & gut. Neurosciences have now found that we have 3 brains, each one offers an intelligence to connect in and offer wisdom from within. You are sent on a beautiful guided trance journey where you listen and receive. For some of us even listening to our hearts is a massive shift, so we go as gentle or as depthful as needed to match you and your situation.

I have always been very indecisive, partly because I just want everything to go well and to make sure it is really right. I have gone through career changes, location changes, relationship changes and each time I have learnt something more about myself or what is important. The best medicine for decision making has been to take time to check in with myself, receive guidance and make time for relaxation. Letting joy and love in is the best nourishment for going into your choices with more assurance and comfort. As a guide that is my role to support you to unfold with all of this.

I always want to make sure it’s a good match to work together, therefore to start, please book a free call here where we can connect and consider together the best plan for you.

Love

Emily

Reconnecting with your heart

Reconnecting with your heart

Heart reconnection and why it is important.

Its a difficult time in general at the moment, with seemingly so much to despair about, wars, ongoing issues of inequality, financial difficulties, the climate etc and if you are like me, then you can have days when you just feel a lot. So what do we do from this place of feeling so full of the gloom perspective? How do we pick ourselves back up and continue on living our everyday life? My suggestion and comfort has been learning and allowing joy back in, like a door way of light opening until that outshines the despair.

I share some simple tips for you to feel more soothed and even a bit more joyful by connecting to your heart.

1 Breathing

Oh I know its an obvious one and our bodies are so amazing at just doing things automatically, but I have been amazed at how even 3 minutes of conscious breathing can soothe. It is proven that abdominal breathing is supportive for our mind and body by calming our nervous system. I like to either box breathe, so 5.5 inhale, hold, exhale, hold or equal breaths of 4-8 seconds in and out from my abdomen. There are a wealth of apps on this and I am currently reading breath by James Nestor in case you wanted to delve deeper in to the knowledge.

Caring for you sea air refreshes body mind and soul

2 Connecting with a friend

Some of you know I have relocated back to Dorset and have had to re-find friendships and social communities. It is simple but oh so important to connect with our loved ones, getting out of the place you may have been ruminating and just sharing in a simple way how we are and listening and enjoying connecting. 

3 Movement 

We all know it endorphins get released from movement, so go find something you enjoy, hula hooping, skating, walking, canoeing, Pilates, running, ask yourself what would I like to try?

4 Nature

Autumn is a lush time to be out walking in the colourful leaves and breathing in that fresh air. I always feel clearer from going out, sometimes new insights arise or just help shift perspective.

Autumn tree getting out in nature for support

5 Limit news time

It is good to discern what information you are feeding yourself, of course staying up to date is important if you want to, however limit the time and perhaps chose the time you do this. For example is just before bed the best time? Are you checking it as an act of avoidance? It most likely may trigger things by reading the news, so just go into it knowing that, (at least for me I mostly dont find comfort in it).

6 Creativity

I have been enjoying doing the artists way a 12 week guide all about finding creativity and play with your inner child. Some of you may have done this, for me it has been so essential to give myself permission to play and enjoy the every day in simple ways. For example, allowing myself sweet treats, colouring in, dancing and being in nature. Whatever your enjoyments are, go do them. 

All of this will support you to feel lighter.

7 Nourishment

Guided visualisations, meditation, spas, healing treatments and yummy supports that help you shift perspective, soothe your nervous system and re-frame your thinking. The hardest part is often allowing ourselves the gift of nourishment, you are worthy. I have always been met with reward when I reach out for support for my own wellbeing.

8 Mbit coaching

Connecting you to your body and emotions

Reconnect in with your heart, by giving it space to share its wants and values. Our heart is a complex network, a bit like our head brain, it can communicate and sense and feel in its own hearty way. Unlike the head brain the hearts desires are really about compassion, love and relationships. Mbit is a beautiful way to connect in with our head, heart and gut brains to hear their wisdom and solutions. When we are more aligned within, it supports us in all areas to feel at our best and clearer in how we want to be in our lives. If you would like to find out more about a treatment, please click here.

So there you have it, 8 simple supports to reconnect back in with your heart and bring some joy and nourishment.

Sending you and your hearts love and warmth.

Emily

How to Make Better Decisions

How to Make Better Decisions 

Are you struggling to make a decision and get clear on something? Perhaps you have made a few rushed decisions before, that you realise didn’t sit right. You might find yourself at the point of wrestling with yourself and forcing an outcome to appear? 

It is sometimes wiser to commit to not making a decision at all (which is also a decision), take stock, unravel and be gentle on yourself. Relaxation offers the best support and trust in knowing you will arrive at a clear decision when the time is right, rather than forcing or rushing.

We are mostly in the mindset of having things we want quickly, taking medication to numb the pain, 24 hour shopping, fast deliveries, the amazing internet at offering the answer we want to anything in just a few moments, but what about making decisions? For sure we can ask the internet or ask friends what they would do, but ultimately the decision comes from us. There is also a responsibility in honouring that it is our choice, embodying that fully and taking ownership however the decision may unfold. 

I share 6 decision making tips to help you relax and make better decisions that sit right with you.

1. Getting out in the fresh air

Fresh air supporting your mind to feel clear

When we are sat around getting caught up in thinking, actually the freshness and change of scenery and getting in a different head space (literally) is a real support. Whether it’s the vastness of nature, seeing the bigger power than us, the sea, or a change of scene in a city, a fresh perspective is nourishing. A mountain top perspective is ideal, you don’t need to literally climb up somewhere higher, although you could, you can also imagine this in your mind and looking down from a birds eye view at a mini you and the decision choices.

2. Focus on relaxing in your body and mind

Women relaxing in the bath

Do whatever relaxes you, such as that refreshing post exercise feeling, your body being filled with fresh oxygen and energy. A relaxing yoga class, meditation, a healing treatment, or dancing. Whatever it is, do and enjoy that fully and be as present as you can with that. I have often read sometimes the best decisions come when you are in the bath. There is a gift in giving yourself a break and simply relaxing in the here and now, which can sometimes bring new insights rather than actively trying to think about it.

3. Be with friends

Taking support from friends in decision making

This may seem like a distraction list, but actually it’s getting you to re-connect with yourself in a round about way, so you are fuller on enjoyment, relaxation and kindness to yourself. Socialising with friends can bring us a smile, no matter how up tight we may seem in making this decision, it will happen easier if we can just lighten and relax a little. It may be we get to talk about it with our friends, the ones we trust and opening up and sharing can be soothing in itself. Your friend or friends need not say anything, simply listen to you, you can also take note of anything they do share and also know this is for you to reach a decision that sits right.

4. Write it all down

Writing down a list of pros and cons

Allow yourself to go there, with a pen and paper, all the things we hope, feel, hate, whatever it is, start by offloading it from your brain. This can look like writing a list of pros and cons about both decisions, which can allow you to see it all from both perspectives. It can be you re-visit this list, adding new insights, as it might be you have more to add, or actually what seemed like a block yesterday, is actually not a problem today. I would suggest setting a time limit on yourself for doing this, which can help bring focus in a shorter amount of time.

5. Focus on your loves

Reminding yourself of your qualities, your strengths, what you enjoy doing, can help shift you into a more abundant feeling. When we make decisions from scarcity and lack, it is harder to see the fuller picture and we want to focus on feeling more nourished in our self, to make the best decision we can. It may also be appropriate to remember any goals or ambitions you have and consider how this decision may support in bringing into your life what you really want.

6.Visualise both sides of the decision playing out

For those that have a more visual display, i.e. images/colours work more for you than words, you can visualise both sides of the decision playing out in your mind as if a yes looks like this, a no looks like that and notice how you feel in your head, heart and gut area as you do that. It might be a lighter or heavier feeling in your body, change of pace, temperature, sense or a change in how you experience both decisions, try as best you can to be aware of changes to your body and emotions as you do this. This is a simple exercise to test out and to not get too caught up in the thinking here, but it may bring knowledge to feeling more drawn or connected to one aspect of the decision.

If you are struggling with any of these exercises or in the decision then of course seeing a trained professional has its place too.

Mbit Coaching is a beautiful way to ask our three brains, head, heart and gut for their wisdom. Neuroscience now shows that neuro pathways are found in our heart and gut area, which demonstrates our natural intelligence we have to use there. Our heads offer creativity, our hearts compassion and our gut courage. Ideally we want all three brains aligned and listened to when making a decision that sits right, literally that sits right in our body and brains. You may find that your head wants one thing, but your heart or gut wants another and can often be why there is a struggle or wrestle in decision making. This is a beautiful relaxing process where we realise we have so much knowledge already within us to support ourselves.

Reiki also offers beautiful insights and asks for guided support from unseen beings, using oracle cards and light energy, which helps in removing blocks to chakras and can reveal a fresher energy and increased insights into what could support you.

Ultimately decisions can often work themselves out and knowing we can always change our mind or simply lean for the next decision. So, the key is relaxation, self-care, doing what you love and enjoy and using mind visualising or writing to support you in becoming clear.

Reach out if you need any support with this.

Love Emily x

 

Reiki Bridport – Distance Reiki

What is distance reiki?

I share what distance reiki is, how it can help you and why it is actually so reassuring in these non-contact times to know that healing, relaxation and calmness are still here to support you.

If you are feeling a bit poopy and are in need of some support, read on –

I have a sense that if you are a squidgy, thinking human being in the pandemic, then you are feeling a lot, perhaps anxiety, fears about death/loved ones dying, feeling frustrated and restricted with all the lockdowns. Well firstly you are not alone, as there are many humans feeling the same way as you. If a physical, emotional or mental symptom is bothering you, preventing you from doing something, then its perfect to reach out for support.

It could be you have muscular pain but don’t want to go for any hands on treatment at this time (most alternative therapists are urgent appointments only in lockdown as of February 2021) you could have digestive complaints, insomnia, are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious and basically a bit p**** off at life.

Fear not my darlings as that’s where I come in, to listen openly and offer any guidance I can give you to completely relax as you are, with whatever it is that is bothering you. Lets see what solutions we can find preventing you enjoying your life.

This is me below, in my treatment room.

Distant reikiHow does it work?

I will ‘tune in’ to your energy field using a reiki symbol, I use oracle cards, crystals and ask for support and guidance from beings at a higher source or vibration, what?! These other unseen beings are usually named spirits, angels and guides. Surely no matter what you think of this intellectually, a load of beings worked together to support you, sending you light and loving energy at this time, has got to be a good thing. A lot of our support structures or go to supports might have fallen away during the pandemic due to the restrictions, so if you feel open to trying this out, then it can only lead to benefit. Reiki can help us cope by encouraging relaxation and bringing balance to both mind and emotions.

Reiki healing oracle cards caring for you

What can I expect from a session?

We will have a chat online, via Skype or a preferred platform, then after the oracle card reading, you will kick back and relax somewhere warm, comfy and safe at home. You can select relaxing music if you prefer. I will be sending you reiki healing from my eco treatment room and placing crystals over your chakra points virtually. I have received both hands on and distant reiki myself and it is so relaxing and calming. I enjoy feeling each one of my chakra points come into a balance. Sometimes there is swirling and whirling of colours and thoughts, but it all settles into a nourishing refreshed feeling, like a good nap.

Some people do receive insights and information which may support to offer solutions. The whole session is around 1 hour and a bit and then I gently wake you and share any insights to support you. Benefits include stress relief, improvement to immunity, reduction in blood pressure, a sense of calm, clearing any blockages energetically and physically, a sense of purpose, clarity on a situation or in making a decision, this can come in the appearance of colours, images or words.

An image of our 7 energy centres, otherwise known as chakra points, which become balanced during a reiki healing session.

Long distance healing over chakra points

After the session guidance

To be super gentle on yourself for the rest of the day (always but in particular on this day) drink plenty of water, to support hydrating you from your energy repair session. Note any insights that come to mind as ways to support you improve your situation.

So, in a nutshell, if your struggling and remote healing ticks your boxes for practical reasons then do reach out. I would so happy to hear from you, feel free to ask a question if you are not sure if its suitable. As, I said relaxation and care is deeply needed at this time and yes we have had to be a bit creative here, but distance reiki isn’t a new creation for the pandemic, but a very valuable tool which can support you to be in a balance, mentally, emotionally and physically. If you feel like you would like a spring clean then its worth trying.

Book a distance healing session here.

“I don’t understand how it works, but just seeing Emily and her treatment was very relaxing. The cards she uses are always so profound and touching. As for the reiki healing, I just love to relax and be sent warming energy, even my cat seems to enjoy it as she will come and sit with me and we relax together.” Jade

“Emily supported me through a difficult time in my relationship, I found her guiding reassurance clarifying and soothing” Beatrice

Reiki healing review